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August 19, 2018 at 7:05 pm #109440
Good evening everyone,
I haven’t posted here in a while. I just wanted to ask for some advice on my current situation.Me and my ex have been separated almost 3 years. It wasn’t the best split, as i posted in previous posts. For a while I wasn’t seeing her anywhere, but now i see her every single Friday night. Though we see each other every Friday, we still neglect to speak or even acknowledge each other. We are both in separate long term relationships. My post isn’t about getting my ex back, but more so about just opening up communication and trying to get her back in my life as a friend. Of course i still love her, and if the opportunity ever came up to be back with her, i would be hard pressed to not jump on it. But truly, i just want her back in my life as a friend. How would you suggest opening up the lines of communication?
August 20, 2018 at 2:58 am #109441@Nmay11 – Where do you see your ex every Friday night? If she’s happy in her current relationship, she might not be interested in being friends. You have a girlfriend so it wouldn’t be the best idea to try and be friends with your ex as it will cause unnecessary drama.
August 20, 2018 at 7:05 am #109443We play bar league volleyball at the same bar. Honestly, i just want to be able to acknowledge each other. It’s insane to me you can love someone and then pretend you never know they existed. I can’t do that.
August 20, 2018 at 10:29 pm #109445@Nmay11 – Just say “Hi” when you see her. Nothing more is needed, especially since both you and your ex are involved in relationship with other people!
If you want to try to get your ex back (even though she has a boyfriend), you should do the decent thing and breakup with your girlfriend first.
August 21, 2018 at 6:03 am #109446That isn’t my goal here. She’s a wonderful person. Just miss having her presence in my life. My goal isn’t to rekindle the relationship
August 21, 2018 at 6:59 am #109447@Nmay11 – You see her at the bar on Fridays. Does your girlfriend go with you?
What do you mean and what is the purpose of “having her presence in your life”? How do you think your girlfriend would feel about it?
You wrote: “Of course i still love her, and if the opportunity ever came up to be back with her, i would be hard pressed to not jump on it. But truly, i just want her back in my life as a friend.”
Do you love your girlfriend? I don’t think she would like you having an ex as a ‘friend’. And I don’t think the boyfriend of your ex would approve either!
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