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Hello all! I’ve been single for 9 months after my girlfriend dumped me following a lot of fights, and doing long distance while she was serving in the military. I hadn’t been entirely honest about my past with her, and she had cheated on me. Yet I loved her immensely and maybe was blinded by that love. We dated for 1.5 years and I didn’t see the breakup coming. I haven’t been on this website in quite some time but I figured I’d give you all an update. I had attempted to contact her a few times in the first few months after a month of no contact but heard nothing in response. I ran into her right after Christmas and we didn’t talk but her mom, who was also there, took me aside and told me that my ex was greatly hurting over me. I didn’t attempt to contact her and heard nothing from her. Fast forward to two days ago. I had been working on a note to her for a while just telling her that I wanted her to be happy, told her about some changes in my life, I wished her the best, and told her that I did indeed still care but that I was not going to try and contact her anymore. I sent it via Facebook, and to my surprise she responded. She responded for the first time since we had broken up. However, it wasn’t the response I had dreamed for. She told me that she would never come back to me, that she was trying to forgive me but that she didn’t think she would anytime soon, and to never contact her again. Her words hurt. I felt emotional about the loss of her all over again following her message. I guess I’m posting less for advice and more to just vent. I thought this woman and I would be together always. Now I enter a stage of no contact once again, a no contact that I will hold until someday maybe she will realize that all I wanted to do was love her. Maybe she’ll realize that the guy she threw away, was the only one who loved her inspite of her flaws. But I know these are still just dreams. Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
Some girls are very stubborn so they stick to there decision no matter what happens,and also during your relationship if there was all fights and you took her for granted she took it to heart and now she will push her mind very hard to not to come back in your life.
My g/f is one of them I took her for granted for 4 years and now its almost a year and she don’t want to come back.I am on 63 days of NC and only heard once from her.I have also lost all hope with my g/f though.
So for you just do NC and keep low profile and leave the relationship on god.Wait for atleast 60 days and see if she tries to be in touch with you and it will also help you know that if she still loves or care about you,if she responds may be 1/2 times that means she just cares,if not than she has moved on,if she tries more but may be 1/2 times in 30 days than she is interested.
Again all girls have different way of thinking and all relationship has different scenarios
Did she talked about marriage or have seriously wanted you in all term of your relationship ?
She wasn’t really taken for granted, I very much showed her appreciation. However it may be different in her mind. I struggled with jealousy in the relationship because she was in the military and around a lot of guys who hit on her. Like I said, I have only heard from her once in these 9 months and it wasn’t good so my hopes are slim =/ Her and I did discuss marriage and a life together. We talked about kids and where we would want to live. That is honestly one of the reasons I struggle most with the loss. I can’t understand how she could give all that up. But, all I can do now is pray. Thank you kalicooldude for your words and I wish you the best in your attempt to reunite with your ex!
Give her some space, i think she miss you but she have to forget all hurt she feels rigth now…
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