No Contact Annoymous – Share your struggles with keeping NC

[sunshinegirl]

Athens –
I understand you! But i still love to have hopes because they help me move forward!

[Athens]

Sunshine,

Yes me too especially for my own good (not being selfish here) in a sense that I will be able to bounce back and redeem myself and be stronger than I was after the break up. I can say that after 3 months of breaking up and over a month and a half of NC my emotion’s still unstable.

[julia]

Athens,

I feel exactly like that.
I guess that is why today I see my situation from a different perspective. One think is for sure, NC is essentially for us and we need to become a better version of ourselves. Then we can face any situation, even our ex.

[Daniel]

Sunshinegirl,
I see. Come visit if you have the time. So you can have a good time. Beaches are great here. Great way to take your mind off your ex. 🙂

[sunshinegirl]

Julia –

Good luck to us!

[sunshinegirl]

Daniel –

I will!!

I love beaches! Just watched a sunrise at beach with my ex this summer 🙁
Sure will remind me of him..

[Daniel]

Sinshine,
Ooops. Sorry. I think i just hit the wrong button.

[sunshinegirl]

Daniel –
Hey don’t be sorry! That’s totally fine 🙂 Anyway no matter it comes to what I’ll probably relate it to my ex because I’m still recovering 🙂

[sunshinegirl]

And hey everyone here,

According to the checklist for ending no contact:

-You followed the no contact rule for at least one month.
-You are no longer a mess as you were after the breakup.
-You have made a few positive changes in your life.
-You are absolutely sure that getting back with your ex is a good decision.
-You have gone on at least one date during no contact.
-You have accepted the breakup and you are OK with the fact that you may never get your ex back and this might never work for you.
-You have accepted the fact that even if you don’t get your ex back, you will be fine since there are endless opportunities in the world to find love and happiness.

I feel the first 4 is not hard to achieve while the last two.. Ugh I feel it’s so hard to accept the fact that it may never work for me! Any I’m doing OK only because I am keeping my hope there!

[Daniel]

Sunshine,
Goodluck! You can do it just stay calm and be strong. We are hwre for you. 🙂

[Angie]

Staying strong is the key especially with NC. With my ex it’s pretty clear he thinks I am full of bull about wanting to really work things out and me not leave again. Not sure what I can do to get through to him. Maybe nothing.

[julia]

Angie,

You know what? I am starting to realise that ‘do nothing’ is maybe the key for getting your ex back. You never know…..

[sunshinegirl]

Julia –

Why do you think so? And what do you mean by “do nothing”? Literally do nothing at all?

[Daniel]

Sunshine,
I think she means do nothing to take the ex back. Which is i think makes sense. As i have said before. Move on. Let go. If its meant to be it will be. You will attract each other again. Everything starts on the moving on. The healing, growing, and even getting back together. 🙂

[sunshinegirl]

Daniel –

I love reading your words! Always clear and inspiring! It’s hard for me tho, because we’re in a long distance relationship. We started dating LD except I lived in his place for a month in the summer. With the distance, it’s too hard to attract a person.

Any ideas?

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