No Contact Annoymous – Share your struggles with keeping NC

[D.T.]

Maybe I am invisible here!!

[Jamez]

Has anybody gotten back with their ex after the NC for a month?

[julia]

Hey James,

There are some success stories somewhere on this website (if I find it I’ll post it).
And I also know some couples who are close friends of mine and they got back together but I don’t know if they actually followed this specific plan.

[sunshinegirl]

Wow Julia that’s inspiring and good to know! Lighted up hope!

[julia]

Sunhine,

You mean my friends who got back together?….

[sunshinegirl]

Yeah, is there anything wrong with that? …

Have you asked them how?

BTW, actually one of my ex managed to get back with me… But I’m not sure is it easier/different from a guy getting back with a girl than/from a girl getting back with a guy…

[julia]

Sunshine,

Well I don’t have any tips 🙁

But all of them got back together after 5-6 months.
My closest friend just ended contact with her ex and he eventually called her after 5 months (he broke up with her).
My other friend initiated contact after 6 months since she was the one who broke up with her boyfriend.
My other friend just happen to meet her ex somewhere and decided to get back together.

So I guess the person who asks to break up is the one who initiates contact. Maybe the NC plan does work to a certain extent.

[Daniel]

Sunshinegirl,
So your a chinese living in PH? My ex came from a chinese family also. Its common here in PH lol

[Daniel]

*youre

[sunshinegirl]

Daniel –

Nope I’m actually living in the US right now but I’ve always known that PH is a great place to visit! 🙂

I came to the states last year for school 🙂

[sunshinegirl]

Julia –

That ex got back with me in the way that I mentioned in this post (in the first comment after the original post):

I said breakup and he initiated contact. I feel like I’m not the person who would contact the other one after breakup because I don’t want to add more hurt. Also I think my ex (whom I want to go back with now) isn’t the type of person who would do that too. That confuses me.

[julia]

Sunshine,

So you don’t think your ex could contact you at all?

[Athens]

Sunshine,

I feel the same way too. I think that my ex wouldn’t contact me anymore, she also said to me when she decided to break up that she would never ever get back to me. And i felt that it was true since we’ve been broken up a couple of times when we’re still together. But i don’t know, there are times wherein i feel that we would eventually be together again and times that she wouldn’t return at all. It’s very confusing state.

[sunshinegirl]

Julia,
I’m actually not sure. Sometimes I feel like he’s not going to contact me but sometimes I feel like he’s going to contact me in a while, maybe around 2 months.

He messaged once back to our mutual friend when she asked “do you plan to stay friend with her?” He said “yeah but she needs time to heal. I’m not going to just drop her but I want her to focus on herself” (I didn’t ask her to ask or anything, they were just talking about this and she showed me part of their chat screenshot)

Good side – it’s possible that he may contact me and all I need to do is improve myself before he contacts me so I can build the attraction again

Bad side – Did he just friendzone me? Oh gosh. But anyway, I think feelings wouldn’t fade away so quickly, considering all the memories we have. I hope he could forget what I’ve done not perfectly first.

I feel like he has never done something bad to me, although he’s the one to initiate the breakup. He’s always considerate, and respectful. And the last thing he wants to do is to hurt me. So I guess even someday he contacts me, he will believe I’m already fine at that time, therefore I guess it would be a while later.

I also feel lucky that I found the website right after I broke up, and I got friends besides me. Although I wanted to text him, like asking why, like asking for another chance, etc, I didn’t do any of these. All I did is replying his email very briefly and showed all my respect. However, he may know I was not doing really well from our mutual friend, because she mentioned once “She just kept asking if you still like her and I told her she needs to focus on herself”. This conversation happened before me replying email and I’ve posted nice photos and positive status on Facebook since then, hope it will help him to know I’m ok 🙂

[julia]

Sunshine,

My ex is almost like your ex. A good guy, respectful and yes he did initiate the breakup. I know he loves me. But at this point, if you ask me I need him to contact me. I want him to show me a sign that he cares. But after 4 months I may feel so much better so I could initiate contact. I guess only time will tell.

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