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Go for it. Keep in mind you’re ready. You’ve been preparing for this for so long. Nothing can break you whatever reaction you get from her. But anticipate negative reactions. I remember when i contacted her after NC. She didnt reply. Then i found out that because she’s entertaining a new guy. Check your mindset. Dont be confident that you can get her back. But be confident because you know you can live without her. Its 2 different things. But it would be better to accept the possibilty kf not getting her back. I guess by now you know that nost of us here didnt get our exes back but we are happy now. We’ve reached this point after a long time. So dont be afraid buddy. Even i that came from a 4yrs relationship overcame this. You can do it to!
Daniel..wow
I have no words to express how much your words have impacted me. I agree 100%. I didn’t see it that way but I agree! I really don’t know how to thank you I really needed to hear that. We were only together for 9 months. But I thought about the worse case senerio but I will also prepare for it. And yes I’ve actually been doing well without her and I should focus on that too. There are plenty of women out there.
Thank you Daniel once again you’re the best!
Is festive david still active? Mu country is easy to visit especially for tourist. Im from the pihilippines. I hope he comes here also.haha!
Rihanna and steve,
Hahahaha! Goos for you you’re from the same country!LA,
I would like to ask you something regarding the Letter. Well I am far from it. I am planning to send it in one and a half months where I finish my NC. But I want to start writing it. Did you use the template from the Relationship Rewind or did you write it all by yourself? Do you have some kind of guidelines that you wish to share?
Again good luck with yours :)))
Many thanks
JuliaJulia,
What’s your story? If you dont mind repeating lol. In any case. Follow the format. 1st part is accept the breakup.
2nd part is apologize if you acted crazy after the breakup.
3rd is to try to make a future reconnection possible. Hint with something you want to share but you are aware that you still both need space.So there you go. Goodluck on your letter!
Daniel,
Thank you for your quick response.
I know it’s a tough long road. There are days I am losing hope and others where I am so determined!
Any advice?
Thanks
JuliaJulia,
That’s correct what Kevin said, I used that templet and I also included something that reminded her of a bliss moment during our relationship. I do recommend for you to start now. I’ll help you relieve stress from the break up and it’ll give you an idea of what you’ll write in your final letter. I re wrote it like 5 or 6 times
Stay strong, best wishes
Hi Julia
I used the template from Relationship rewind as a starting point then chopped and changed it as I felt best for my situation. Personalizating it to your situation is the key. Like yourself I wrote the letter and sat on it for a week before even looking it again. I made a lot of changes from the original draft.
For myself personally my paragraphs went something along the lines of
Paragraph 1 – Apology
Paragraph 2 – Reminders of bliss moments and reinforcing that I did love her during the relationship
Paragraph 3 – acceptance of breakup but desire to be friends
Paragraph 4 – calling out that she hasn’t maintain friendship even know she promised we would
Paragraph 5 – Reinforcing my belief in her as a decent person and someone who will do well with their career
Paragraph 6 – Hints at stuff happening my life and wanting to meet upIf you have read some of my earlier posts you will know that I didn’t hear back from my Ex after I sent the letter (I know she got it) but I still believe my letter was well written and would of spoken volumes to her
Hope this helps you
You guys thank you so much! You are amazing.And it’s also nice to have a guy’s perspective.I’ll update you soon.
Thanks,
JuliaJulia,
Try writing a letter everytime you have an idea on your mind.You know what dont mind his rebound. It will only mess with your mind. My situation was before was tough. My ex started to entertain someone new but she did not commit to him yet. Shes talkin it slowly and surely so im positive its not a rebound. She is also kind of sweet to him already. But hey, its all in the past. Im over it. If ever you dont get him back. Youll be fine trust me. Goodluck! I wish you do get him back!
Actually I do have a quite crucial question regarding the communication in general. I already had my doubts about communicating first. I mean why should i contact him with a letter or sth else? He is the one who broke up with me. He is the one who wasn’t responding to my emails and calls at the beggining of our break up. If I send him the letter even after quite some time it will be like i am chasing him again even though the content of the letter won’ t reveal something like that. Isn’t it his turn to chase me and try to win me over? I revealed to my friend who has been amazing and so helpful during my break up my intention to contact him through the letter and she said it’s the worst idea.
What you guys think? I really really need your input on this!!!!!
Many thanks
Juliathe purpose of the letter is to let him know that you are now okay with the break up and you respect his decision. And that you are not crazy about him anymore and that you are sorry for chasing him to the point that it annoys him. That’s it.
Truth be told this whole plan to get the ex back is not guaranteed to work on everyone. In my batch here, i guess only one of us got his ex back.
If you are thinking that way then i guess you have the right mindset. But only you have the knowledge what is best for your situation. Be ready to lose him and save the begging keep your dignity Goodluck!
Daniel,
Thank you for your response. So what you’r saying is that it all depends on the content of the letter. Cause i think there is too much of intimacy in the template that is in the Relationship Rewind.
Kind of. I made mine plain and simple. So it will seem less emotional. My real intention for the letter is to let my ex know that i am calm and composed already. And that i reapect her decision. That is all.
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