Need help with No Contact- Please

[matwilson91]

Hi Everyone,

I just want to know if I still got any chances to get my ex gf back if I do no contact.

Me and my ex was in relationship for over 4 years. During the relationship I accept I didn’t give my 100% but at the other side I never backed off whenever she needed support or anything.

Her complaints are that I didn’t give her enough time and I was always busy with my own stuff and other things.

Which is true I was really busy to build up my career, saving to buy for a house and also studying with full time work.

So she never directly brought up anything with me that her feelings are getting changed and all. She gave me bit of idea which I didn’t take seriously.

I went overseas to see my family for a month and during that time she went interstate to see her friends. When she was there after 6-7 days she text me and say it’s all over now. I asked why she said just it’s over now. We had this kind of fights and argument before where she said to me that it’s over. So I thought maybe just going through that again. I said to her I am coming back next week and then we talk about this.

When I met her she just explained we are different personalities and she doesn’t feel for me anymore. Moreover she doesn’t want to live in the city where we both are leaving now. She wanted to go to the city where her friends live because of more opportunities and all.

After that for 2 weeks I tried to convince her,beg her literally and cried. But nothing got changed. Then her parents asked to talk to this another guy for arrange marriage. She told me she’s going to talk to her.
That made me mad. I said if you wanna do this do it. I deleted her from Facebook and unfollowed from Insta and deleted her from snapchat. After 2 weeks of silence I didn’t contact her or anything. I found out through her email she’s actually seeing the guy whom she visited when I was overseas. That pissed me off. I called her we had fight and everything. She never accepted that she’s seeing her. She said that guy is only my friend and yes we are thinking in future we might get in relationship and all but right now we are just friends.

Then after fight on that day. I feel like my whole world is crashed and I begged her really badly. Contacted her friends to convince her. Cried in front of her but nothing worked. Constantly called her and messaged her for while. Then she blocked me.

Around week ago I called her from private number she picked up the phone we spoke had same kind of chat with bit of arguments and all. Then we both had to go to work. So I said to her I am gonna call you after your work please pick up my phone. I called her after work and she picked up my phone. We had same kind of chat that why are you doing this to me and all. Then she didn’t have any exact answer for that.
Then she said to me she’s seeing doctor and taking stress pills because she can’t deal with this anymore. So I said to her why are you taking pills and all. I asked can you please don’t stress out yourself. I said how can you be ok?.. She said don’t call me if you call me that makes me stressed. Then I felt really bad but at the other side I want her to be happy and healthy. So I said to her if that’s the way for you to be happy.
Don’t worry I wouldn’t bother or call you anymore.

Now it’s a week today. I haven’t spoken to her. Also, at the other side she’s seeing that guy as well.

So, do I still have any chances to do no contact and she will realise it?

[patricia12]

She doesn’t want you to call her so respect her request and don’t call. No contact might help her to miss you, but if her parents have introduced to someone else because of religious reasons for an arranged marriage, she will probably go with her parents wishes.

“We had this kind of fights and argument before where she said to me that it’s over.” This is not a good sign. But try no contact and maybe she will contact you for reconciliation.

Good luck

[matwilson91]

Hi Patricia,

Thank you so much for your response. I am from the same religion as that other guy is like I don’t think so her parents will have any problem if we go for marriage. As I am more settled and successful in my career as compared to other person.

So don’t know what’s the exact reason is for her behavior.

As per your suggestion I will continue NC it’s been a week now I haven’t spoken to her at all.

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