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Me and my ex are back together(: whenever we hangout i never know what to do. like i talk most of the time. but we usually just sit there. i dont know what to do. its like he distracts me with his cuteness. i feel so awkward and boring. i dont want him to get bored of me. i need help with stuff we can do together. im 100% comfortable with him. i just dont know what to do. im like that with everyone. i dont want to be like that. i want to be fun and excited. he says he loves being with me and hes always looking forward to seeing me. i just dont want him to start being bored.
You need to work on your self esteem. This is not a first post where you call yourself boring and how you dont want to bore him. Why do you view yourself boring?He chose you in the first place, and he chose to come back to you. Do you think he would have done that if he thought you are boring? You already have the best bit that you are 100% comfortable with each other You dont need to try to come up with activities to be fun and exciting. Have you considered that you already are fun to be with because he can be himself with you? Exciting you dont need to come up with massive amount of things to do all the time it can be little things,cook romantic dinner and put on something sexy or attractive, play a funny board came (that can be seriously fun, try it), go for picnic, get tickets for some event (did you say he likes bikes?) and it is enough if you just are yourself and once every now and then break the routine of what you do and do something different but it does not need to be something big, think small and it can lead to unexpected big fun. Fun is not something you massively plan it should be more organic than that. Keep in mind that he fell in love with you as you are and he wanted to come back to you, if you suddenly start being this upbeat, excitable, extreme fun fun person he will wonder who is this and might not enjoy company of that person. What excites a guy is a girl who has good self esteem i.e who values themselves and that is what you should do value yourself because I am sure you are perfectly fun person to be around and not boring at all. Chin up girl and keep it simple and I am sure you can think of many things to do with him .
thank you(: im trying to work on my self esteem. its really hard for me. we are going to work out together today. haha im so worried about embarrassing myself.
Listen, there will always be people who will judge or think not nice thoughts about you we all have that. The thing people who matter like your real friends, family and this guy like you for who you are faults and all so rest of the world do not matter. I have embarrassed myself many times and you know what the best cure is simply to learn to laugh at yourself and brush it off. Sometimes I tell people of those moments when I really embarrassed myself as funny anecdotes and I laugh and that is what people like, if you can laugh at yourself and not take it so seriously then you are good, people I am sure already like you and if something embarrassing were to happen just laugh about it and you know what people forget it that it happened at all. Because I think what happens is you spent the time trying to ensure you dont say or do anything what you consider embarrassing and you forget to enjoy the moments and you pull back, stop thinking about too much, join in have fun and by god if you do something embarrassing just laugh and you will see people will also laugh but not at you but with you and it is more fun that way and they move on faster from it. Just remember you are not boring and you dont need to worry what other people think it matters what you think not what others do. : )
thank you so much. youve made me feel so much better. im going to try to not over think things and kinda just be laid back and try to not think about anything that is bothering me and just have fun. i think thats my problem. i just think about losing him again and stuff and it scares me. yeah i dont care what other people think i just do me. ive always been like that.
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