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She likes soccer, cooking, swimming, cheerleading, dancing, hangning out with friends, horses, hockey, movies, nail polish.
And im afraid to bring back memories from our pas relationship because im afraid of her reaction.
Maybe u can try about nail polish or movies or any cool places. Have u read rewind relationship? There is a lot of simple text that can bring the convo unteresting
I think drift. Because she still give you respond and not blocking you everywhere. She is just being hot and cold with you. Confused with her own feelings.
Why would you think she is confused? If you dont mind me asking
My friends told me that i should reply his msg because they said they will afraid that my ex bf will think i move on and doesnt care about him anymore. How?
Well another alternative to your situation would be to say “im doing fine” keep it short and friendly dont talk to much about your emotions dont send more then 3 texts try to only send one that would not say much and make him see you need space
Sigh. Im so confused right now. I dont which the right way to do. If u were me, what u will do?
Answer him but keep it short example : i’m doing fine, i’m taking time for myself going to the gym and working on my stuff
Dont ask about him, dont mention how hurt you are, act independant and as if you were out of reach but by the fact you answered will make him wonder and think
Maybe i will wait until 2 weeks maybe? To reply his msg. Im just afraid that he will think im clingy or needy but at the same time im afraid he will think i move on and forget him
Well if he thinks that it could also work your way by making him think about what he loss! but your idea of 2 week NC is great i find but stay true to it and improve yourself!!
Yah i think maybe he realized that i didnt update anything in social media. Maybe it feels weird for him because i always reply his text and update my social media. Its really shock and grateful that he still want to know where i am.
I really want to complete my nc. Maybe to complete 14-21 days. Depends on myself. If im fully ready to update my life. My new me. I cant text him totally right 2 weeks. It will be weird. Maybe odd numbers like 16days or 19 days or 23days.
So this is a quick summary of me and her. We dated 2 years ago for about 3 months (not long i know) but it was significant to me and her because we were eachothers first kiss and everything. And she told me about how lucky she was and etc. But then i got clingy to her and she broke up with me, and yeah i know that was my fault. So we didnt talk for about 4-5 months and in that time period i met a new girl and dated her, but i know it was only because i wanted to get over my ex. But in this process i learned how to not be clingy etc and realized what i truly did wrong (me and her broke up within a couple months). So eventually in that time period my ex texted me asking why were not friends etc and we caught up. And i started getting feelings for her and she started getting feelings for me again. And we were pretty much on and off for awhile starting from sept 2013 to about december (this is when we got more serious) and so after that we started getting to really know eachother and we bonded alot more but we never “officially” dated because she said she doesnt want the full commitment. So eventually it died off again but we always kept in touch every single day, andnit rekindled again in july because this is when she was leaving to another city for school and she explained to me how grateful she is to have me in her life and how much she cares about me and how shell miss me etc and that she cant wait to see me when shes back. So we were doing long distance from august till now and at first everyhing was fine, then eventually she just kinda gave up on me…. And stopped caring as much. So we got into a fight and that lead to her ending things in late october. But after she ended things she was explaining how she wants to say she loves me but shes scared of something and that her walls are built high. So we didnt talk much, anx when we did i tried to fix things with her because she said herself i never did anything wrong. And i guess this made her mad and i didnt realize. So she eventually told me amonth after with minimal talking between us that she wants me to do something wrong so she can get over me and she is trying to find every reason to get mad at me so she can just leave, and it scared me and made me upset. So i told one of her friends what was going on because that isnt like her to do that or say that and her friend eventually told her and she got really frustrated at me and said that shes done with me for good. And i accepted that, but within weeks after that she still continually tried to text me and talk to me etc, and there was one night where i couldnt reply to her as i was busy and she said to me “fine dont reply but never expect me to talk to you again” and i explained to her i couldnt reply. And she was all like, were never gonna be together again, im so sone with you i hate you blah blah al lthat stuff and i asked what i did, and shes like nothing i just do. I got really upset and frustrated so we had a huge fight and said some pretty nasty things to eachother but it was out of anger. And she said to me that she talked to some people about how she led me on etc and what was going on and what i said to her because it hurt her and she said that its time that we officially never talk again and that shes not there for me anymore not even as a friend. But a couple days after that she texted me and we were talking normally and everything and she actually ended up calling me to tell me about some stuff. She just snapchatted me today as well to tell me shes coming home tomorrow, and after my reply to her she said “sorry were not suppose to be talkin right now” like i am so confused.
So the moral of the story here is that im really confused guys. She says shes over me and that well never be together and all this stuff, but at the same time she told me i played a significant part in her life and all that stuff. And everytime she says shes done with me she still texts me and i dont know what to do because i miss her.
Your ex is clearly not over you, she is doing that hot and cold thing. I’m not realy an expert on this but i can tell for sure she still likes you, but i dont know what you should do.
I would suggest to either meet up with her and try to get things going (since she is in town for a temporary time) or do an NC for 14 days and contact her.
Try and get tips from @a.z he can for sure help out!
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