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Today has been a day!!! I saw him and he asked me a question about our relationship. I answered truthfully. I began to feel horrible and overwhelmed. He wouldn’t let me move until i told him what was wrong. So i poured my heart out to him. Ugh! As i was crying he pulled me near and held me. I told him that i am afraid and that i don’t want to lose him forever. He said i didn’t. So i calmed down. But then later in the day i asked him about it again and he said in a year or two. That we need to work on being friends and if it’s meant to be it will be. Idk what to feel or think. I am trying to remain positive and have faith. But I’m so scared! !
I got a question, i all ready got “date” with my ex GF at 15.11.2014 saturday and i was at Active no contact before it should i keep no contact or limited contact to her before we meet? because atleast i have sayed that i hope that meeting would be fresh start to us and see how the things go from there..because during breakup my ex sayed she needed space and time and we should be apart for a while because we was 3 years together.. well im hoping postivive things from that meeting because she answered so fast to back to me ( under 3 min with text) so i tough she didnt doubt to see me or are in relationship with somebody because she was so quick setting up a day and the time with me 🙂 counting days atm 😀
If you mean me? I was first 2 weeks no contact then talked little phone and i started no contact myself to her and after 5 days she text me twice there was stuff i needed to answer so i answered only that and i asked that would she come teahouse with me in future when it opens she answered yes ( we text no phone calls and i wasnt contacting her at all for 5 more days because didnt know when the teahouse was opening and i text her right away when i found info in fb and she didnt hesitate to answer me our day to meet was setup in 5min.i sayed to her that what weekend is right for her to us meet because i was busy at the week and she picked first open weekend what that place is open and i sayed that when we meet i wanna get to know her and begin fresh with her and see where it goes..whe has been together 3 years and broke up little over 4 months ago
Yes @JL i was referring to you. Im sorry for not responding sooner alot has been going on. Has anything changed since your last comment?
@N is everything ok??
Nope Mj321 i have keep my distance and only send her 1 message with picture where was forest and the sun to cheer her up at the work got text back with thanks 🙂 when she was at work..kinda waiting the day we meet and see how that goes because if it goes bad,i get easier over it if i havent started talk with my ex more on phone before it and im hoping it would be new beginning for us like i have told her so keeping my cool and counting on days here 😀
Hello @Mj321 thank you for asking, it has been a really long time, how are you? and how things are going with you?
@JL that’s good. Stay strong! I’m sure it’ll go great! ! She seems receptive! Keep me posted!
@N happy to hear from you! I was a bit worried! I’m hanging in there. Nc is hard! Especially when you have a child! I know i broke Nc this weekend.. smh. He asked me a question about our relationship, i answered but i didn’t like how he was acting. I was uncomfortable. I began slamming doors and went in my bedroom to be alone. He followed me and made me tell him what was wrong. I tried not to talk about it. But i began crying and told him that i didn’t want to lose him! And i am afraid. He held me as i cried. He told me he understands me being afraid. And that i didn’t lose him. We just need time. Later that night he said if it’s meant to be it will be. Ugh im so confused. I restarted nc on Monday. He’s reached out to me on Monday and Tuesday. We have to handle some things regarding our child tomorrow. Idk. I pray this works! I’m in love with this man and i want my family together!
what happened was normal thats why you should stay away from him so the nerves breakdowns don’t happen in front of him, i restarted my nc last thursday so its been nearly a week now, we had a really nasty fight where we both said things we shouldn’t say, he hurt me a lot with his words, so I’m waiting for both of us too cool down and heal a little, you still have hope and a big chance of getting him back, don’t tell him anything personal at all, and whenever he asks whats wrong fight the urge to tell him, just keep in mind that it will do no good, don’t worry your family will be reunited again, i know it.
I know it was definitely too soon. It was going good and all of a sudden I’m crying! I pray it does! I really want my family together! Nc is really necessary. Because it gives both sides time to think and heal. The time is just the hard part! Ugh! I’m proud of you for realizing you need space as well. And for being at 7 days with no contact! I don’t think no contact is realistic in my situation. So i’m only reaching out because of our child. Tomorrow me and him will be alone. I’m going to try to keep it strictly business! But look beautiful in the process!
Yes and act happy too, they hate it when they see you happy! yes, i realize now that i need time too because of his words to me, i never expected it from him, but i guess its all from the pressure from his work out side of his country, he’s coming back to our country in Christmas and i think when he comes back reality will hit him, because we used to do everything together.
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