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August 16, 2016 at 9:01 pm #65901
Everything going alright Phil? You haven’t been posting much. I’ve had another tough day but that’s just part of it I guess.
Hope you’re doing well!August 16, 2016 at 11:01 pm #65903Sorry about that, just trying to stay busy….been dating or trying to date but nothing’s really worked out. One girl I met last week was really flakey which hate, so I met one on the Tinder app and everything went better than great, we have amazing chemistry on the phone and txting BUT I met her tonight and I’m just not at all physically attracted to her and she does live 200 miles away from me in Houston. Maybe I need to take a break from dating for awhile, I’m not really sure but I get lonely and want companionship so I keep trying.
You’re having a rough day? What all are you feeling?
August 17, 2016 at 8:35 am #65923It’s good you’re trying to stay busy and it’s great you keep meeting new people! They may not be working out now but I think it’s good you keep meeting people and going on dates, especially if you are feeling lonely.
I guess Im in the same boat as you as far as feeling lonely. I think that was my problem yesterday. I’m feeling a little better today, my emotions have just been all over the place. I can’t seem to get ahold of them
August 17, 2016 at 3:41 pm #65951Yeah, but when things don’t work out, I come home and take it hard….but I guess I’m trying to move away and move on.
Yeah, we are both in the lonely boat but what else can we do but try to stay busy….I’m glad you’re feeling better today….it’s never fun going through those emotions. That’s totally normal though to have those emotions all over the place since it hasn’t been that long since you stopped talking to her.
August 18, 2016 at 12:12 pm #66001Hello guys, how are you?
Today is my 21 NC day and feel a little more resigned to every situation … But I feel that longing every day increases more and more.
I feel that I can not move on and know I can not wait forever for my ex girlfriend.
This is very strange
August 18, 2016 at 12:39 pm #66006@phil
You can’t beat yourself up! And don’t get too down when things don’t work out! Look at all the positives, look at how far you’ve come. You’re doing well to meet new people and trying to make it work! It’s not going to work with everybody, if it did relationships would be pretty pointless, right? Just keep doing what you’re doing! It’ll pay off!
August 18, 2016 at 12:44 pm #66007@misterhandy
I know it’s tough, I’m on day 15 of NC and it kills me to be moving on but it’s for the best. You can move on even if you may not realize it right now but it’s up to you to decide when you want to do so. You don’t need to make that decision right now so just keep up the NC and you can decide that later.
If you feel lonely just try to stay busy and hang out with friends. Write down your emotions so you can hopefully get your mind off of her a little bit. Keep it up!
August 18, 2016 at 5:32 pm #66019In life, you will realize there is a role for everyone you meet. Some will test you. Some will use you. Someone love you. And some will teach you. But the ones who are truly important are the ones who bring out the best in you. They are the rare and amazing people who remind you why it’s worth it.
I found this on Facebook and thought it was fitting.
August 18, 2016 at 8:19 pm #66022Hey!
Nice words! Thanks!
that’s the impression I have of my ex! She made me the best it opened my eyes!
She who showed me the importance of seeking to understand ourselves and be better!
🙂
August 19, 2016 at 10:07 am #66077That’s a good quote, very inspiring.
August 19, 2016 at 4:03 pm #66105Hey guys.
Do you did the new test in this site? To find out your chances of getting your ex back?
My result was 42% 🙁
Today is being especially hard! I will not have company and I have to face the friday of loneliness!
Any tips to face the loneliness?
Best
August 20, 2016 at 9:00 am #66164First off, I wouldn’t take those kinds of tests too seriously. For this site it’s only a pipeline for you to eventually buy Kevin’s worksheets, it’s just marketing really. And let’s face it, we all know going into this our chances are relatively slim but now impossible, right?
The loneliness is tough. I have a hard time with it myself, it helps if you do your favorite hobbies. For me, I put on some headphones, blast some music, and shoot some hoops. It gets my mind off of everything for a little while and the exercise is good. It doesn’t even have to be physical activity though it can be almost anything, get lost in a book, funny tv show (the office is my favorite), a video game. Whatever you enjoy just sink your teeth into it and relax. It’s more of only a temporary fix but it’s better than nothing I suppose.
August 20, 2016 at 12:49 pm #66171Hey guys, I hope you don’t take this the wrong way but I’ve been reading and it’s refreshing to see there are guys out there dealing with issues like I am. Also, if you guys don’t mind giving me a tad bit of advice on my post I’d greatly appreciate it. I’ve had plenty of helpful advice from women on here but I think I need advice from a guys perspective also and how to cope. I appreciate it!
August 20, 2016 at 3:56 pm #66181Thanks baseballguy!
Yesterday was pretty hard! today this is better because I am in the company of some friends! i like the office too! the problem is that usually watch with my ex !!
I will try go out today!
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August 21, 2016 at 10:28 am #66215@phil
So I have some interesting developments. I just got the mail today for the first time in about a week lol and I got a package in the mail from her. It was a birthday present, a devotional book to be exact. The only problem is my birthday was like 3 weeks ago lol so I don’t know if she sent it before or after we started NC. I know I should say thank you but how do I do it in a….. Not awkward way. Also, I’m pretty sure she has college orientation today so do I say anything about that? Or not?I feel I should say something to her soon so idk, just any input or advice would be appreciated
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