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I texted her asking how her week has been going and she wanted to call me. She said that she has been meaning to call me for the past couple of days because I am having the kids this weekend.
We talked for a bit, she told me what has been happening with her work and I told her the things going on in my life. It lasted 11 minutes which is the longest conversation that we have had in a while.
She could have texted me to confirm time and place of pickup but she wanted to call so that’s a positive step.
Yes definitely it’s a positive step! In the future, call her occasionally! It’s much more personal and I think she would like that:)
Well we just met so I could pick up the kids. I tried to be friendly and tell her whats bwen happening. I asked her about her week and she asked about things going on in my life.
While it was friendly it felt forced. It was like back when we first met. I suppose it was because she was tired and she wanted to get back so she could rest and have dinner. Having the kids around is also a distraction but it is disheartening.
Don’t be discouraged or disheartened! Think of all that’s been accomplished within the last week.. she replied to your letter in a positive way, she’s called you, got you a birthday gift, and you’ve had a couple of nice conversations.
Prior to that, for 8 long months you’ve been living apart (except for those few days in March). You were cold and angry for a very long time and you admitted you’ve said and done many hurtful things over the years. Since the separation you ignored a few of her messages and phone calls. 3 1/2 weeks ago you said you won’t be cold towards her anymore, but you continued limited contact. 2 weeks ago you had a breakdown at church and she had to “beg” you for the reason why..
So you see, it’s only been about a week that you’ve opened up to her and been more friendly:) She still has the memory (and so do you) of times in the past that weren’t pleasant. But I don’t think either of you are holding on to resentments. She might be a little reluctant to believe things could be better in the future, but if you continue to be supportive and open, over time she will start to think of the possibility of reuniting. She wants to be happy and so do you! Be upbeat, laugh, tell jokes, whatever it takes to give her joy. Think positively and take things slowly. I have a good feeling this will all work out in the long run:)
PS: After teacher’s college, how long will you study to become a teacher?
Thanks. I need those words of encouragement. Next week I have to study on campus in another city but then I won’t have to do that again until next year (I think) so I am planning on calling her more often and seeing how she responds. I also am going to ask if she wants to do something fun like mini golf sometime soon.
I have to keep reminding myself that it has only been a week since she got the letter.
Teachers college is where I go to study to be a teacher. I start next week.
You’re welcome:) Yes, keep reminding yourself (and encouraging yourself) that this “new connection” is recent and that things probably won’t change quickly, it will take some time. Inviting her out for something fun will create a new good memory and I hope she accepts, but don’t be too upset if she doesn’t. It might take a while before she feels comfortable going out with you.
Teacher’s College is only for 4 days. After that, will you be qualified to teach? What sort of job do you have now?
Best of luck and keep your chin up..
Teachers college is for over a year. I just have to go up there for a week and then do the rest long distance. I an doing relief (substitute) teaching now.
I will keep at it. Hopefully it will slowly turn my way.
We had another phone conversation. I started my first day of study today and I wanted to tell her about it so I texted to see if she was still awake. She called me not long after and we talked about the kids, about her work, about my day and the conversation went on for 18 minutes. At the end she said it was nice to talk to me and hear about how my day went. I told her it was nice to talk to her too.
A small step forward but still a step forward.
Yippee, she called you again! Be sure to call her occasionally at reasonable daylight hours. Even if she doesn’t pick up, I’m sure she will be delighted and return your call when she can. It sounds like it was a very nice conversation and I’m glad you added it was nice talking with her too..
You wrote:”I started my first day of study today” Good luck with your studies, have fun when you can, and have a safe trip home:) I know you’ll be there for a few more days. But what do you mean by doing the rest of the year long distance? Will the studies continue online?
Yes it will continue online.
Yes it was a nice call :). We had a few laughs too so it was a better conversation than the last one :).
I ordered a box of her favourite, handmade, chocolates last night so they should get there in the next two days.
You wrote:”We had a few laughs too..” That’s great!! You’re on the right path:)
Glad to hear you’re sending her the special chocolates for her birthday. Are you going to send a sweet birthday card too?
She got the chocolates and she messaged me saying “hey thanks for the birthday present, that was very nice of u.” Then we had a nice little chat over messenger. Another step forward. She should get her card on Friday.
I’m glad she sent you a nice message:) Women enjoy and appreciate thoughtful gifts and gestures ~ So do men, LOL. Anyway, it seems you’re headed in the right direction. Good luck..
I called her again. I texted her first to make sure she was home. She is not well and has the flu. Despite that we had a nice conversation where I talked about my studies and asked her how things were going. The conversation only lasted 8 minutes but she was sick.
The important thing to take away from that was that she was thinking about texting ME shortly before I texted her.
I was going to try and talk to her more often this week but she needs to get well first.
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