My story and tricky situation

[gamecoder.nz]

I don’t think I would make a joke about it. I would just initiate the conversation.

[Vladimir4]

Okay, so things worked out themselves, I was lucky because the timing was right and she had a good day.
So I took the middle-ground and jokefully initiated conversation. It worked out very well and we are again on the speaking terms.
I’m going to avoid such situations in the future and keep establishing connection and trust.
I can see she still has feelings for me.

What’s not making me happy are our jobs – our days are consumed by work and sleep and we are simply not able to text so often anymore. I hope it won’t affect our relations in any negative way.

[Vladimir4]

Update:

We’ve both ended working and now she’s on vacation. Our first meeting is going to be on the 28th of September – we are going to eat some food and have a walk. What made me happy is that she invited me by herself, I was surprised when she did that to be honest. What made me sad is that she told our mutual friend that she regreted inviting me because she felt that I still want something from her. I don’t really know what to think about this.

Some time later I suggested going together to a concert in other town that is kinda far from us. She agreed and she even asked if we are going to book a room in a hotel for night. Today, we had been planning our trip and I asked what about spending night in a hotel (not in a needy or flirty way, I just told her that I didn’t care much about how we are going to come back home and I am just curious what’s her opinion on that) and she said that she wants to come back right after the concert, but she didn’t say that in a mean or negative way.

When we text, she sometimes behaves like she wants affection from me and sometimes she is cold. I’d like to flirt with her, but I don’t know if she’s okay with that. She sends me photos of herself, she’s never done that before, but probably that’s because she is on a vacation.

We are starting studies in few weeks so I really hope we will both find time to meet regurarly.

Any thoughts, suggestions?

[Vladimir4]

Hi
Here’s my last update on how things are if anybody’s interested.

I didn’t succeed in reconciliation. She didn’t find any time to meet up with me or she just told me that so that I wouldn’t build up hope in myself again.

So I was in a pretty bad spot for a couple of months – I couldn’t do anything, I couldn’t move forward in regards to our relationship. I kinda moved on, but I was still maintaining a friendly contact with her and still had the idea of reconciliation in the back of my head – I just took a stance “let’s see what will happen”.

Few days ago she began to send me some mixed signals/messages that made me confused, but kinda happy. I was thinking that maybe she was flirting with me, but it turned out not to be true.

Our friend, that I mentioned several times in my previous posts, told me recently that she had fell in love with her roommate. He has feelings for her too, so I guess it is now a matter of time.

So I guess it is time to move on. I am not going to fool you – I am sad and I wished it would work out, but it won’t happen. I hope she will find happiness.

Thanks to everyone that supported me and gave me advice. I really appreciate that. This site and forum taught me many important things and I hope I’ll be alright.

Take care

[patricia12]

@Vladimir4 I’m sorry it didn’t work out, but I hope you’ve learned from the experience. Never start or provoke arguments and don’t add to the anger by shouting or name calling etc.. Never show jealousy if you don’t have a reason or proof! And if you suspect something, calmly discuss it. Always be kind, respectful, and thoughtful. Get to know someone gradually and don’t place the main emphasis on sex! Good/honest communication is a must..

Of course you’ll be sad for a little while, but you’ll be alright. In fact, you’ll feel better and better over time. And you’ll be a better boyfriend to someone else in the future:)

[tanda]

I would not worry about her thinking you still want something from her.

She knows the mutual friend talks to you too. She probably doesn’t want to show she is letting her guard down.

You just need to play it calm. You are getting a meeting that’s great. Just be yourself and don’t come into her. Focus on building attraction in person. Definitely dont stay at hotel. After meeting then reevaluate.

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