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September 12, 2014 at 6:35 am #7135
at this point and time I feel really scared, nervous and desperate. I guess this is it, either break it or make it, I have hope but don’t want to fool myself either.Im so scared and confused. I hope this letter works. I may come here instead of exercising so I could write my letter. hopefully you’ve seen this and have been able to help me be able to write it out. then afterwards hopefully I can drop it off and then should I remain no contact again, im sure he would contact me. should i mention old memories in the letter? I’ve kept thinking of things we did as kids lol. im just scared to hear something like this is nice but I told you we would never ever get back together. π I feel that coming after begging him and pleading him. lol (the deadly mistakes) oh my, should I write that I accept the break up? I dont think I should at this point and age.
September 12, 2014 at 6:51 am #7136also should I tell him about all the changes im doing or that a lot of good stuff are going on in my life and that i want to tell him about it or should i just write the letter expressing my feelings for him only of course not admitting fault but saying something with I’m so sorry I hurt you in many ways, those were never my intentions. I know all the pain you are feeling, and it’s one of the worst you can feel. Now I understand your pain really well and I can’t believe that this is what you were going through and feel. it’s really horrible to feel and now im understanding why your feeling this way. Im not sure what else to write from here but this was now from the top of my head. what else do you think I should write after this, I know im going to be coming up with more things to write, I havent written him a letter in forever, so im kinda rusty here and hopefully it’ll be more meaningful. im kinda stuck right now, any in put would be appreciated, thanks btw: I wrote him a letter a long time ago, when he stopped looking for me at the very beginning and thats how I got him to stay. should i mention that i was there for him when no one else was or should I not? should I also mention that we should do a friendship trail or is this a bad idea and just mention separation. thanks
September 12, 2014 at 7:51 am #7139I would also mention that you’re taking the fault and youre to blame. Unfortunately i dont know what he can and cant use against you in court.. If you want, you can email me the letter before you give it to him π
September 12, 2014 at 8:34 am #7141I wont put my fault(what i did) in there though at the moment im trying to come up with ideas to write in the letter but i need to hurry up as im running out of time. π I should probably translate it to spanish just to make it more difficult to use in court and make it different, idk or bilingual. what do you think? at least itll say i wanna try it out. so the court can see that im “trying”. what do you think?
September 12, 2014 at 8:39 am #7143[email protected] use this one π
September 12, 2014 at 8:40 am #7144Have you written it yet?
September 12, 2014 at 9:24 am #7146thanks, I’m working on it now and this is so hard because I have so many emotions and so much to say that I dont know what to say and how to express it. any suggestions. also should i tell him to respond via letter? also should I mention to take his time to read and analyze what I wrote? like 2 weeks? should I mention how much I love him and miss him? or does that sound to desperate and needy? how should I mention the being separated part to him? should I tell him that im ready to start that friendship he wanted? and that I would like to hang out with him like in the old days? any suggestions? how would you write yours?
September 12, 2014 at 9:26 am #7147also should i mantain no contact after the letter again or not?
September 12, 2014 at 9:47 am #7148Give him the letter when you see him and let him contact you. Don’t tell him to do anything, just ask him to consider what you’ve written. Dont put any pressure on him, this is you telling him your feelings.
September 12, 2014 at 12:41 pm #7162so give him the letter instead of dropping it of, thats gonna hurt. my hand hurts from writing but at the end its worth it. im going to traslate it or google translate lol so you can read it. I just didnt want to make it easier by writing it in english, lol
September 12, 2014 at 1:04 pm #7168I think giving it to him is the best π
September 12, 2014 at 2:24 pm #7189send it to this [email protected]
the email deletes after 10 minSeptember 12, 2014 at 2:30 pm #7191just did i hope you got it.
September 12, 2014 at 2:34 pm #7192Just got it π Did you send it from your real email? Coz then i’ll add it to mine
September 12, 2014 at 2:39 pm #7194no but I can give it to you if you want.
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