my soon to be ex husband says he wants to be friends.

[aamls]

idk why im losing everyone, all my siblings my mom my father passed away in july and now my husband. i dont want to lose him i love him

[cassie]

Just quickly go tell him that and be very nice!! and put some perfume on.

[aamls]

is that good

[cassie]

let me know how it goes

[aamls]

I cant even face him right now but will try to. im gonna go ask him if he did then im gonna ask him to come tommorow, or later on to talk that i got something to do. but what if he says hes going to go now to turn them in

[aamls]

do I tell him that im busy or what excuse do I give him

[cassie]

just tell him you’re in a rush right now so if he can come by later or tomorrow

[cassie]

How’d it go? 🙂

[aamls]

so when i went looking for him he was laying down, he doesnt feel well and has throat ache or something. he woke up when he knew i went in there, he saw me and got really angry and said he came to talk to me today and left, my mother in law says he still loves me and is hurt and confused. he left really angry but at least this give us time to figure something out. I feel so scared but a relieve that hes gone for the moment, i love him so much i cant lose him. im off to get my oldest, if you have any suggestions feel free to say, ill get on later tonight. thanks guys for all the help you gave me in this really tough moment. 🙂 i feel sad and depress but a bit relieved. talk to ya soon. 🙂

[cassie]

Well, i just read on another thread that you’ve cheated on him so this changes the whole situation. He’s probably hurting really bad and the advice i gave you about going on a date, DON’T!! I’m guessing he wants the divorce because you cheated?
I’m sure he still loves you but if you havent apologized yet, that’s what you need to do.

[aamls]

yes, I know, he is hurting really bad and my children and his mom tell me to give him time. i have no time to wait. first he was stalking me now he wants the divorce again. I don’t get it. im very confused. I already apologized to him a long time ago, so he knows how I feel, it hurts me so bad that he knows how I feel and still keeps doing this. he was acting fine and then snapped, I didn’t chase after him even though I wanted to when he left outside in anger, his mom went outside he gave her a kiss and say bye and left. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m confused and a hot mess. 🙁 now he still wants the divorce and I can’t stop him. if he chooses to talk to me later on what do I say to him? He isn’t going to back down from the divorce since his mine is settle on that, and i dont want that. I wish there was a way to convenience him not to do it, but that would be a miracle. any thoughts on how to get him not to go through with it. if he chooses to call me or text me, not sure he will, what should I do? oh my i’m stuck in a needle inside a hay stack. 🙁 any advise? since he left me I started looking things up on the internet and thats how I ended up on this site,lol..any other tips or advise you have for me? I feel really hurt, his mom thinks he still loves me but this last month has been really neutral, and now this again. ugh, I keep having thoughts that I shouldn’t have but can’t picture him with anyone else as well as me. 🙁 what can I do? or should do?

[clear]

I honestly think you should just write him something.. The truth.. A letter.. I did it, and it will give you a feeling that you gave everything you had, but in the end it’s still up to the other person if they want you back or not. His HURT. He wants you, but he’s clearly hurt.. You should honestly write something down, read it for a few days and if you feel like it’s the right thing to do, then maybe give it to him.

[aamls]

so you think that in this point the no contact is over and i should write him a letter, I wouldn’t know what to say and i wouldn’t want him using it in court against me as well. 🙁

[clear]

Well does NC work for you? If it does, keep doing it.. If it doesn’t, then don’t. I’d much rather want an apology letter than a NC if my gf ever cheated on me, honestly.. His broken, let him know how sorry you are. Maybe not by a letter, maybe just say it to him face too face..

[aamls]

well it has settle some what because he’s been calm. but now you see from last night to today the change he made. idk whats wrong anymore, and i’ve been losing weight bettering myself and he’s seen it and still keeps doing this, i really dont know what he wants from me. 🙁 also i already apologized to his face a lot of times before as well. I really dont know what to do. 🙁 im stuck in a breaking point, i really dont wish this pain or feeling on anyone else. it’s so bad for me.

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