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Only you can decide what to do on this one because you know what your emotional capabilities are.
If you think you can handle the “friend zone”, hang out with him.
I knew once my ex told me about her dating, I had to say bye for now. A false friendship was not in the cards. But there were other factors as to why I felt I should go NC as well.
Hm. Okay. False friendship. But if he flirts with you, talks about a future and all of that but is dating other girls, go NC. That’s when it becomes having his cake and eating it too.
I think i will wait for him to initiate and maybe see him a couple of times as friends to see if he can handle it. up until now he has been completely honest about how he feels so I’m not worried about him leading me on. i guess i will just have to take it one day at a time.
Yeah. Just keep becoming a happier and healthier version of yourself. The fact he is telling you exactly how he feels is why I don’t think it would be bad to try a false friendship.
today is a very hard day for me. i guess good days and bad days but this has been the worst in a long time..
Im sorry. Is there anyone you can hang with or anything you can do to keep your mind off of things?
Worst thing you can do is sit and think about it.
going to try to distract myself..its almost as if i don’t want to allow myself to move on. sometimes i thinks something is wrong with me!
update: he told me he doesnt want a relationship but he doesnt want to lose touch either so i stood up for myself and told him to contact me only if he changes his mind but for now i am going to do my best to move on and will contact him when i feel ready. i won’t be happy settling for less than a relationship with him so i need to put myself first
Well done for doing that 🙂 sounds like it was the right thing to do considering your feelings. You just have to remain positive going forward, you’ll start feeling better eventually, no matter what happens.
if i go NC do you think maybe ill have a chance in time? when do you think i will start to better? this is so hard!!
If you hold onto the motto “never say never” then I guess there is always hope somewhere. As for how long it’ll be before you start feeling better it’s up to you really, if it takes a while then so be it, but time always heals in the end. 🙂
When this thing woth my ex started, I didnt want to let go. I knew if I tried, I could but I was so fearful of losing my feelings and then she’d change her mind. Stupid eh? I still kind of feel that way but I am choosing to let go until we possibly meet again and create something new.
NC will probably make him miss you. Whereas if he gets to have you around, that doesn’t happen.
Hell yeah it’s hard. My ex is still texting me every night to say she loves me and good night. I like that I cross her mind, but what’s the point in calling me all the pet names from our relationship if all she wants is to be best friends??
We are both in the same boat. You grab a paddle. I’ll grab one too.
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