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So I didn’t end up having to see her, her mom brought my retainer to work. I’m glad I didn’t have to break no contact and see her. But I also wonder if she’s really that pissed off that she didn’t even want to see me. My phone is shut off so I don’t have to worry about texts or anything like that. But I doubt she’d try to contact me during this time anyway. Day 3, hopefully 27 more to go unless something else happens to prolong it.
Alright, well a few days ago she unblocked me and sent me a friend request. I’m not accepting but I find myself viewing her account sometimes, but I also at this point feel like I don’t really care about her. Should I just block her?
Maybe saying I don’t care isn’t a completely accurate statement. But I have gained some clarity (and sanity lol), and maybe it’s just because I have other things going on right now. I’m just confused to as why she’d want to add me on Facebook. I can feel myself getting mentally stronger and more stable, but I also don’t believe I can contact her right now. I think going to continue no contact until the 24th of this month and see how I feel. If she tries contacting me (I doubt she will), I will not give in and contact her.
Great plan. No contact is the best thing for you as you get more stable in your thinking processes and evaluating your feelings. Yes, blocking her and not looking at social media will help you a great deal as it always leads to misunderstandings, sadness, jealousy, and mostly all negative thoughts and feelings! If there’s a way to hide your profile or take it down for awhile, that’s also something to consider. Congratulations on staying strong and becoming a stronger man who isn’t so needy and clingy. How’s it going staying with your parents?
Really good, actually! They’ve been nothing but helpful and supportive. I feel so much comfortable at home now, but I just think that has to do with my outlook on things now. They laid down ground rules but they are only things that are going to help me anyways. It’s nice to be back at home. But also it feels a little odd still, but I’m sure that’ll go away with time. I need this time away so I can mature a bit more and have a stronger sense of self control. I don’t know what it is, but each time me and my ex have issues it just throws me completely out of whack and makes me feel really down in the dumps. It’s weird, now it’s just like she’s a distant memory and it hasn’t even been that long. Part of me probably misses her but I definitely have to make myself a priority and learn to have love for myself before I can share that love with anyone else.
I’m so glad to hear you’re comfortable at home and following the ground rules! Yes, they love you and want the best for you always.. and I’m sure they’re proud of you too:) Not having to deal with all the drama with your ex gives you time to feel relieved of it and yes, focus on yourself and getting stronger and happier along the way. Keep up the good work!
Thank you. Albeit it’s hard to believe someone would be proud of me after all the mistakes I’ve made. She’s been on my mind a bit more today and it’s bothering me a little in all honesty. I miss her, but I just have to keep telling myself it’s for the best right now. I have no temptation to talk to her, just missing her so I guess that’s a plus. She’s hurt me so deeply I don’t understand why I still miss her, my coworkers tell me it’s just because I’m young and I’ll learn that women are just temporary and just move on to the next one. But I don’t want that kind of outlook, I just want to love and be loved as childish as it may sound.
Maybe you miss her because you became accustomed to the drama even though you know it was negative and bad for you. Everyone wants to love and be loved and I pray someday you will find the right girl for you. Stay strong and overtime, you will feel much better about everything. For now, focus on yourself:)
I’m doing my best to make myself a priority.
On a side note, she deleted her friend request to me today. So I wonder what that means? Lol
I blocked her on Facebook so I wouldn’t look at her profile anymore. Was that immature of me?
And you’re very kind. I hope I find someone like that one day. Or my ex will come to the realization that I truly love and care about her, but like Kevin says love isn’t enough. One of my coworkers brought one of his good friends in on his day off yesterday and I think I might have developed a little crush tbh lol.
I have like two more weeks to subside these feelings or figure out what I want to do anyways so I just need to chill out but I hate the uncertainty of the future so much lmao.
Try very hard not to analyze what things mean on social media. It’s a total waste of time and energy. You don’t want to get back into the habit of looking at her profile stuff either! Blocking her on Facebook was a smart thing to do. Also try very hard not to think of the uncertain future, just take one day at a time and focus yourself moment to moment. No, love isn’t enough as there are so many other things involved on both sides to make a relationship work and be happy. You’re very kind and sweet too, and I just know that someday you will have a wonderful girl by your side:) Hey, maybe you could ask your coworkers friend out on a date. You deserve to have some fun and enjoy life.
For now stay strong and continue no contact. You could even stretch it out longer if you think that would be better for your own peace of mind. Hoping all is going great with work and staying with your parents..I’m taking a trip to my bestfriend’s house this weekend so hopefully that’ll help get my mind on things, and also like you said have some fun. Also, I’m not sure yet I guess I’ll have to let the no contact deadline come and see how I feel about things then. All is going well, we’ve had a couple speed bumps but nothing serious and I’m doing my best to comply to their demands. I’d like to go out on a few dates but I’ve only been where I’m at for like 2 years so I don’t really know that many people, plus I don’t think I’ve ever been on a real date before lol.
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