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I feel like all the post break up stuff is just happening months later because it didn’t happen immediately after possibly. So, you think my text wasn’t too much because she hasn’t text me back after I sent it. But we haven’t been texting daily for awhile now. At one point I almost dropped her completely but then I ended up staying at her house and that all changed. I need your honest opinion, even though all these things have happened between us do you think if I give it time and improve myself that I can build up a friendship and then eventually gain her love again? I’ve made a lot of mistakes but she hasn’t completely given up on me yet I don’t think. Maybe there is hope. I honestly still can’t see myself with anyone else and it’s really weird because I’ve never had this feeling before and I guess that’s why I’m so nervous about losing her and her love forever.
Don’t ever overwhelm her with texts and don’t be so anxious about receiving replies! It’s like you wait on pins and needles to hear something and then get stressed out if you don’t get a response or it takes a while. Calm yourself..
Yes, there’s a good chance, but it depends on how much you change for the better.
She said she’ll most likely be asleep when I get back. I definitely won’t get to talk to her tomorrow because she works 8-5. Should I just said what I need to say through text? My phone is shut off so that really is my only option unless I’m going to go no contact without telling her.
Anyways, this what I said (these are two different texts) and also I used some of your advice in what to say:
“First, I want you to know how appreciative I am of the things you’ve done for me and also that I appreciate you and that you’ll always be special to me. Second, I love you. And here comes the hard part, at least for me.”
“As much as I care about you, because I really do care about you. I think it’s a good idea that we don’t speak for awhile. It’s not because I want to, but because I need to for the sake of both of us. At this point, I think I need time to calm down, think more logically, and improve myself and I believe you need time to figure things out also. I’m not sure how long it’ll be but just know I’ll be thinking about you.”
I saw her for a second once I got off work. She seems somewhat understanding but somewhat suprisingly bothered by it. I hugged her bye and tried to talk to her but she wasn’t having it which I understand bc she has to go to work early but I don’t think she realizes I’m serious because she said we can talk about it another time. She said a remark about thinking that I hate her. I think she’s just as confused as I am. So I think this break will be a giant help.
Good grief. This is what I mean by texting her too much. Just send one text!!
“And here comes the hard part..” That’s way too dramatic! Just say what needs to be said. That you love her and appreciate all the things she and her family have done for you. And the rest of your text is okay, but don’t drag it out any further.
I’m glad you gave her a goodbye hug. Hope all goes well with your parents.The only reason I sent two texts is because my thumb accidentally hit send when I wasn’t finished typing lol.
And also, she told me to text it to her in the first place. I tried to explain that I’d rather say what I have to say in person.
And I’d like to thank all of you ladies for helping me through this and making sure I don’t make the same mistakes in the future! I’ll probably be active even more now while handing no contact and I appreciate all the help and prayers I’ve gotten. 🙂
I did and they let me back in and they laid down ground rules that I’m most definitely going to honor. And it will also help me kick my bad habits because they are drug testing me twice a month which I am completely okay with. Next step is to quit cigarettes.
Day 2 of no contact already. I’m feeling confident that things will go right this time hopefully. I miss her but I feel like I have the strength to better myself and keep no contact until it’s necessary. By the time I see her again I should be starting trade school and quitting cigarettes and have been sober for a whole month. I feel good about this.
Good, stay strong with no contact. If you have a drinking problem, attending AA (alcoholics anonymous) will help. Glad your parents took you back in and please be determined to keep their house rules as this might be the last time they would ever consider having you in their house if you end up causing them heartache and trouble. They want to have faith that you will change, so stay in control of yourself and prove to them you can and will..
I started to have a drinking problem a couple months ago, but I haven’t drank like that for months. My biggest issue was smoking weed but I’m not doing that anymore either.
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