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I’m currently in No contact now with my Long Distance Ex-Girlfriend of 3 amazing months (was going to fly out, actually this month to see her and stay with her for 3 months, before we broke up), went through August in a “Pause” (Her idea) was limited contact during August.
I foolishly begged and pleaded before the “pause”, our Relationship went sour after she snapped at me beginning of August after I woke her up (she has a bad heart and had not been sleeping, and with her added stress at work she ended up in hospital that weekend)
That weekend was just horrendous on her and me (me because I care and love her so much that I was worried sick about her)… She hasn’t been the same again, things changed that weekend and she started to feel cold and distant… I tried to get her back, but to no avail, and said then that our relationship wouldn’t be the same that following week, she seemed incredibly depressed as well… I tried to reconcile.
I was in limited contact that month and she was incredibly cold and distant. I asked her beginning of September what was going on… she said nothing was going on, and said she doesn’t have time for a relationship. I’ve been in No Contact for 14 days now.
I’ve started running again, focusing on my work and planning an overseas trip… She also watches my Instagram stories as well, on occasion… and out of curiosity I just looked and saw she goes online on Facebook when I post something… so she’s definitely watching me… Not sure what that means… I know she’s stressing… I’m planning on ending No Contact on the 24th September (22 Days) or should I break it earlier say today… might extend passed the 10th October (Her Birthday).
I love her more than anything and she’s an incredible woman, we just click… BUT… towards the end of July beginning August things went sideways… I have a feeling (at least I hope) she still loves me, she used to tell me at random times when we were facetiming that she loved me so much… we had a moment when she was walking down her street when it started raining, she had a rough day, I said don’t focus on the rain, relax, I told her how much I loved her and that I couldn’t wait to hold her and be with her in September (when I planned to fly out to see her), she burst into tears and told me she loved me more than anything and couldn’t imagine her life without me, we were this passionate for the months we were together until the 3rd August.
I’ve been focusing my energies on other things and working on myself, I’m running and exercising, I haven’t for a year and a half since my spinal injury and this week was the first time I’ve been exercising again.
I think about her every day! I want to marry this girl… but I understand things will take time…
Any advice would be amazing…
I have an idea for the first initial contact message for her when I break no contact…
“Heeeyyy OMG so this is so random. I was playing the Witcher and I am currently in Skellige at the moment and that specific scene came up. Yen and Geralt on that Unicorn and I cried out “UNICORN ACTIVIES” made me think about you and the laughs we had. I miss that. Anyways, how have you been?”
It’s an inside joke with her we laughed at that scene in the Witcher 3 when Geralt and Yen were having sex on a stuffed unicorn… it was our code word for sex lol…
Any advice would be amazing…
The reality is that you can’t possibly know or love someone in only 3 months! You can have good feelings, but it’s not the deep kind of love to sustain a marriage. I’m curious as to how you woke her up if you never met her in person? Anyway, she said she doesn’t have time for a relationship. Stay no contact and then send her a happy birthday on Oct 10th and ask how she’s doing. The extra no contact will give her a chance to miss you and reconsider.
Good luck.
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