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One more thing… anytime if you guys feel low in life.. watch this
it’s so inspiring you should watch this right now 🙂 .
@old_monk That’s good for you. After 7 years of the relations, I dont know that the relations didnt mean a thing for him, so he can get over it so quick.
I just watched a little of the video, its good enough, but its long enough too, hehehe
Thank you for the sharing 🙂My ex(girlfriend) have a streak on snapchat which is pretty large and its something that we have always kept going, its like a thing that we did (do). I don’t know whether its right to keep it going but she told me she wants to. I think the hardest part of NC is you get these thoughts that the time apart is giving them time to get over you which is scary.
People that move on so fast after a break up is usually a rebound and most the time it never lasts.
It will hurt, each day not seeing that person it gets easier, you need to distance yourself, keep busy and if he wants you in his life he will be in contact and if he doesn’t then he doesn’t deserve you..Nope, we been together 2 years, we banter a lot had great chemistry talked engagement, kids etc.. i was happy with him for rest of my life.. i sent a pic for a laugh didn’t go down well, we didn’t talk for few days so i can 4 days later and we spoke for over an hour, he said something isn’t working here so i said ok shall we break up? HE said i am not saying i want to break up, i just need some space so i gave that to my ex but for month after told me he loved me, texted me, asked my opinion on furniture etc… so for month i tried but now i done the NC for 30 days and now im on day 32.. we had 2 weeks apart he went on a stag do and i went away, since coming back Monday we haven’t spoken but also he has not been in the office a lot as he is an engineer and is out on jobs daily… i did see him look at me today, i was walking towards him to get into a door which was half way towards him and saw him look at me and i walked away so i was facing away from him so i walked and showed him what his missing lol..
I don’t think he has met anyone, even if he had i would not know and that would be best for me..But i am in a better place than i was 2 weeks ago, i would love for us to be together but would not want the same relationship would want something more mature.. i have been looking at quotes and on my screen saver i have “If they miss you, they’ll call. If they want you, they’ll say it. If they care, they’ll show it. And if not, they aren’t worth your time.”That keeps me going, also the best revenge is to move on, get over it and continue to succeed. Never give someone the satisfaction of watching you suffer.
This sounds so hard and it is, it will get worse before it gets better.
I learned hard way, my family just say lesson learned you will be fine.. my mates say you can do better.
Nothing or no one has helped me through this, i lost weight, was depressed and didnt get out of bed at weekends and would cry..
Its horrible but now i dont do any of that, i am going gym getting into shape, taking care of my skin (which isnt the greatest) going out with friends, i even out a new picture on my whatsapp of me with my mate to show him im not sitting in waiting…Hey,
Sorry i havent read your full story but NC is not a chance for them to get over you and if she can get over you in 30 days then she wasn’t worth it.
The NC is for you mainly for you to find yourself and figure out if you want her still, what went wrong and become stronger and realise what you want and gives you time to heal.
Doing NC will give her time to miss you and gives you time apart to miss eachother.
Continuing the snapchat thing you have, is not a good idea.
I know it was your thing when you was together but hard as it sounds your not together, she needs to know your not going to do the same stuff when you was together (snap chats) let her see you have drawn back.@Lisa26 Thats a good quote and I like it 🙂
Yes NC is hard, the same condition happen to me too,lost weight and the other, I even got sick because of the stress and what I have to do now is thinking about myself. I do know that I need this broke up to find myself again and to love myself properly 🙂
@samsmith12 hi, I agree with Lisa26 that you should stop that stuff so bith of you can figure out what do you really want,is it going back or the other.
And for the thought that NC is giving our ex a time to get over from us, I dont really know. For me the hardest part of NC is all the thought about him that running around in my head. About do he think about me?Why he do that?Where is his mind?And the other. Thats thought is eating my soul.so update, ex came into my office today about work stuff and we worked as a team and it was good how well we do stuff as a team, that is all but feels good been long time.
I also looked him in the face for the first time for ages as it was hard and just came to me how i fell inlove with him.No personal progress though.. but gets easier. 🙂
def flirting i was in kitchen rinsing cup and his behind my and blows my hand so i move and walk away…
such a nice update @Lisa26 🙂
He must be feel that you are so confident and enjoying life without him 🙂i was meant to say he blew in my hair not hand lol.
I hope it was flirting, i am so bad at signs lol, i just want him to realize i was good for him.I think he is flirting to you, but lets hope for the best and expect for the worst so we can still hold our feet on the ground when there is no thing come.
Btw will you just accept him if he try to get back to you??Yes i know what you mean, i wont look to much into it..
We was just having a laugh a minute ago both laughing and just reminds me how much of a laugh we had so i hope he sees this.
Since he did that in the kitchen we have been talking about work stuff and been laughing at eachother so nice change to be honest.Erm i wouldnt jump at the chance, i am not desperate for him, i want him i dont need him.
IF we got back together we would do some talking about stuff and take it slow and have a completely new relationship but his got some apologizing to doI’m bit of a weird mood, yesterday made me realise I miss him.
So Monday was first time we seen each other for 2 weeks we haven’t spoken he hasn’t flirted or nothing hardly seen him this week. Today I went in the kitchen to wash my cup up he comes up behind me and blows in my hair… Then said he didn’t have any paper to write stuff down for me, he said u took all the sticky notes I pack it away move it for you and I don’t get any, I was like that what you men are here for, we both laughed made me realise why I liked him. Anyways I left 5 minutes early and everyone sees me go and he makes a comment ” oh I see ur leaving early so we can lock up”.I don’t know what any of this means, if I’m looking to much into it or even if it means anything.
He cannot expect us to be friends on how he treated me.Out of curiousity, for those who remained friends on social media with their ex, did you allow them to still see when you were online during NC? Also, did you continue to post things for them to see like going out with friends, etc.?
I’m on day 4 after we broke up two weeks ago (last week was her birthday, texted her happy birthday and met her Monday to tell her I accepted her decision and if she ever wanted to get together again to give me a call). Feeling somewhat better now, I started guitar lessons this week, going to start running next week (just getting over some ankle injuries), and also will be volunteering at a local animal shelter and horse rescue farm with some of my free time. So I’m definitely taking care of myself 🙂
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