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December 14, 2015 at 3:02 pm #56962
aryyan – thanks for the advice, unfortunately for me, the only thing I can do is stay away and give her space. I’ll really try to let her contact me first :). As for your situation, it sounds terrible for you. I think after all this time, and after your NC, you should write a letter. Don’t be too needy, just let him know that it’s not fair for him to just stop talking all this time, and if it’s really completely over, he needs to man up and say it. It’s not fair that he leaves you in limbo. Sorry, I know that doesn’t sound good, but whether it’s good or bad news, you can’t move on till you know, stay strong π
katelyn13 – it Is crazy how similar it is, it does really help to know that somewhere out there, someone knows how I feel. It doesn’t help that I love giving Christmas gifts so much! I’m here if you want to chat, we can strategies together haha π
mathersm59 – very wise words, I do appreciate all the different views points, it helps me not to have tunnel vision. And I am trying really hard to better myself, and I’m doing it for me, so thanks π
ebzwazhea – it’s nice to hear from someone whos been on the other side of the breakup, I’ve never been this broken over a breakup before. Thanks for the support, I’m sure I can do the NC, it’s best all around if we give each other space π
Brittney123 – thanks, it’s so much harder with the holidays here! I’ve never been with a girl at Christmas so I really agonised over the presents for her to get them perfect. I think the best thing we can do is keep talking on here, so as too avoid doing anything hasty nearer the time π
December 14, 2015 at 5:47 pm #56969Yes dear. I think its better for u to give her space and make urself improve more. Wearing something nice work out. Do not look miserable at all. Perhaps she looks better in u later? Who knows? Anyway u guys in long distance or short?
Erm. I did try to ask people about my letter and it sound terrible. And when im thinking abot letter, he still staying with his family due to his family is not a wealthy people so he really work hard to find more money as far as i know, its very hard to give him a letter. He doesnt want to see me and all so if i write letter in sms, he will just read it. So my friends thinking to do meeting with him and i will be there without his acknowledge. So its lik surprise meeting with him. What do u think? I just want to talk nicely. I just need answers because i deserve an explanation to be honest
December 14, 2015 at 6:23 pm #56972π I am doing the positive steps, and if anything, at least they distract us! We live in the same town, so it’s a very short distance!
That’s good news about the letter, you avoided a mistake! That’s a really good tactic to let people see it before you send :). I think meeting up is the only way, if you send him a text message, he’ll probably ignore it, he has been very good at ignoring you. If you do decide to ‘accidentally’ bump into him, please try and stay calm. Just a quick chat about nothing serious, and that’s it. Remember, if you are to follow this website, you have to get your ex thinking about you.
December 15, 2015 at 3:29 pm #57008Every day gets better buddy I promise you. Hang in there and time will go by. Don’t ever stop loving. If you do that then she wins. Try writing. I am not a writer by any means but one early morning I couldn’t sleep and of course crying my eyes out; I picked up a pen and just started writing out my feelings. More a letter to her but I didn’t send it. I actually ended up writing everytime i felt empty inside and on the day of my 3 month of no contact I built a fire outside and burnt everything I wrote. Listened to my music which of course I got a playlist of music I listen now for my every mood type and I tell you what I felt a relief when I woke up the next day. I am not 100% but I feel so much better. Whatever you do don’t give up!
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