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Hello! My ex and I broke up almost 3 months ago. I didn’t exactly beg or plead, but the first month I asked him if we could talk (maturely) about the breakup, because our breakup was very sudden and I was very shocked by it. We talked, and during the second month of our breakup we didn’t text at all but we kept seeing each other because we had a lot of friends in common. We are always really kind to each other, laughing together. He is a musician and I love singing so we are always singing together, too. A lot of people tell me that it’s as if we never broke up. I wanted to see if this sweet approach would work, but other than that he hasn’t really showed any kind of interest. In a week it’ll be 3 months since we broke up, so for my own sake I decided to do no contact. I haven’t been replying to him in any of our common groups, and I plan skipping a few friend meetings to see if he misses me… but is it too late for him to miss me?
I’m trying no contact because he’s the one he broke up with me, and as I’ve been his friend for these months after breaking up I feel like he’s taking me for granted, and I haven’t given him a chance to miss me. I’m scared of doing no contact, because I’m scared it’s too late… any thoughts?
Unnecessary contact will just make him move in faster. Go no contact , he hasn’t experienced your absence yet
Definitely go NC, remember, however, that this is a period for you to work on yourself thats should be your priotity, NOT getting him back. Good luck! What I did was also deactivate some my social media or simply reduced the usage. Try something else to invest your time and energy on! Smile! Again, Good luck!
I would say it isn’t too late for NC because in my experience guys usually come back several months after the break up because they process things slower. It sounds counter intuitive but he’s more likely to notice you if you’re no longer around than if you’re around all the time. You should become allusive and he will wonder what you’re doing and who you’re doing it with.
Good luck!
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