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I somehow turned it around and got friend zoned. She threw a couple things to get me to react like she will date or mess around and be single and I can’t question her but I stayed cool which caused her to than say I think it’s best we don’t talk lol. I stated calm and played my role she said goodnight and so did I.
I dont think you were ready. Lol
When you first made contact you should’ve focus the conversation on her…don’t ask nothing personal…if she brung up something personal you should’ve said one quick thing and try to focus it back on her…Almost like she just was a friend you say hey and bye..the conversation shouldn’t been no more than 15mins in your case maybe 10..and you should’ve ended the call by saying okay just checking up on you have a nice night or day and hang up that’s going to make her want you…
The thing about her is she saying you she cares about what you doing in your personal lifeThe thing about her is she still cares about you because she asking about your personal life…
Sometimes people would say how happy they’re beening single and stuff and some maybe true…but I don’t think she’s beening truthful….I think she thinks about you more than you think of her….she have to tell you things like we can’t talk anymore because that’s the only way she can try to get over you I say give it another two or so and try to make another converstation stating that your cool that you’ll aren’t together and you rather be her friend…and that’s it…for nowIt was actually like that first 10-15 min than she asked me why I called hats when I reacted and poured out my heart lol I knew I messed up but I was thinking logically. She says she don’t love me or want to be together again but kept listening to me and what I had to say than kept giving reasons or excuses why. Than she lost signal and sent a text saying she don’t want me anymore and move on and get a new gf. I just kept saying call back lol but she said text her it was like that for a min but than I did what you mentioned I became her friend. I said I rather us be friends instead of stop talking and I feel like she became a kid lol. She said you know I’m going in dates right or I may mess around right and I said ok idc sure duh etc lol and she kept trying to get a reaction and since I played it cool I see I start getting some power because she kept sending long messages I sent short replies. She than eventually said I feel like we shouldn’t stay in contact trying to get me to beg I said I don’t agree with that lol she said we both can agree to disagree I said we always disagree that never changed we will get through it like we always do. She eventually said goodnight and I said it back. Btw she was texting me back super fast soon as I sent it I got a response. How did I do? I feel I started bad but I finished strong. You say leave it for two days or two weeks? I didn’t beg I just told her how I agreed with the break up how it allowed me to focus on myself and see what went wrong and that I like her and wanna try from beginning she said no lol but kept wanting be to say I’m wrong and listen to what I say. Funny because she didn’t admit she was but Ig that’s woman. She also said in this month she thought I moved on and was dating and she didn’t think about me at all she was trying to move on and happy single but have not been dating. She kept saying she talks to no one wants to be single and keep rejecting ppl. But later in she mention next month she going in a date with this guy who was her friend been trying to talk to her since 10th grade we are 21 lol. She saying it’s not a date but they hanging out her a total loser but ig since he been a friend she idk ,… Maybe it was to get me to react. She sending mixed signals and also shows she still mad she text her cousin asking if we talked and told her f me and she will never talk to me again lol she than asked me if I been talking to her cousin bout us I said no and she got mad like I said yes lol. Sorry I’m ranting but what to do next I see you say leave it alone for awhile and let her think how long exactly? I know that was to much for one night I hope my chances aren’t gone (she told her mom she was on a important call,I was on phone )
Oh and also what about the idc about you I don’t love you I see no future with you etc? She also than later on when I agree to be her friend say I’m not her type anymore lol I said we friends that don’t matter right now. Is she serious or is that emotions still
Its okay to rant….I actually like reading your story because you laugh about it so even though you want her back your not being sad and moppy about it..lol…
But yeah she trying to play this game with you. Deep down inside she want you and the other part don’t so she keep telling herself she don’t want you..so she cab convince herself that she feel that way …I say give it two days no contact than she hit her through text message just a simple text remind of something she like to do that you started doing or something y’all have in common than end it with just had to share that with you okay bye….It keeps her wanting more because what you been telling me about her texting back so quick means she was eager to text you ….and after you do that give it about a week or so and try to invite her out with a group of friends that your friends with and she Is too….see how it goes just don’t show no emotions and just act like your fine being her friend but don’t conpletley ignore her just a little…hope I’m giving you good advice lol…but I think she still want you but you have to show her how much she misses youI’m just naturally like that a joker or just really chill lol I never try to be sad causes wrinkles and stuff. She moved out of state I’m in michigan she in illonois so I can’t meet her at all. The text we had really lowered me again I feel and were disrespectful hurtful and showed she still has the power. She really playing a game also I wish I could screenshot them on here but yes she was still texting fast and I kept it positive and became a friend as much as I hate it. She said she will date and mess around and honestly that posses me off and idk how I remained cool lol. You say hit her up but a lot of ppl say give her a lot more time because it’s to much games and drama being played and if she want me she’ll come back. I thought we could be mature but nope not in real life lol. She treating me like I cheated or hit her and even though I had my flaws I treated her like a princess to the best of my abilities. But she displaying disrespect hate and the willingness to move on without even talking or trying to work it out. My cousin gf said she still a kid that don’t know what she wants and need to find herself. But why push me away when she said I taught her to love herself what love was In general and gave her self confidence? Isn’t that backwards I’m her only good bf while I there’s hurt her and I’m getting dogged out lol wth. I honestly start to feel like f her and let her come to me I can get any girl I want I just love her so much it hurts I’m being treated like this. My girl bf said I was suppose to be her superman and sweep her off her feet to take care of her that’s why she hate me. I’m also being told even if she hates or shows anger that’s still emotions and shows she still care because if she didn’t she would respond and would be indifferent is this true? What’s next more space or contact ig?
I thought maybe if you gave her space for two days than text her and maybe that will work
…all you want right now is to get on her good side….
but like I said the first time you may have to continue NC until you feel ready to have another conversation with her because you and her wasn’t ready
..let her find herself ..and you just work on you and yes if she shows you any type of emotions that’s a good thing …because my ex not showing me none lol so your good…but for now on let her contact youMy ex isn’t showing any either… He’s too busy with his new rebound girl 🙁 which I’m beginning to think might just turn out to be the real thing…I have this terrible feeling that he’s going to get her pregnant… I don’t know why 🙁
I have the same feelings…I’ve had dreams about it and seen signs everywhere…don’t know what they mean but I will just be torn …but I’m trying to get myself together I hate when I think about him.I can be at work and he pops in my head.I’ve been trying to meditate, and its kind of helping me not to think of him so much….but than my mind wonders again and the image of him and the new girl pops in my head …..Its just crazy how someone they said they love just forget you…like you were the worst person to them.
Omg I see signs everywhere too!!
She’s an ambo and I swear to god I’ve never seen so many ambulances in my freaking life! I hate it!!! 🙁
Life sucks… Ppl suck… 🙁Lol….don’t worry..just try to focus on yourself and don’t look on social websites…because that’s what I’ve been doing and it just took me back to day one on how I was feeling….we have to learn to be happy by ourselves first so we can be ready for the next heart break….I love ex like no other and he knows that,he even said the love I have for him is something he can only dream of….but he’s just not there in the relationship.
A part of me want him back but a part of me will have the worst feelings about him if we got back together because I’m going to feel like he’s losing interest in me and leave me again…
All of my emotions our everywhere and its hard to not think about but when you think to yourself one day. And say I never want to have any doubts in my relationship….and you want that person to love you equally as you do…And the fact that he gave himself to another women will stay stuck in my head every night we well fall asleep with eachother….
Just stay strong because that’s what I’ve been trying to do everyday….even when I feel like calling him but I know its going to get worse because he’s not going to answer because he giving this women all of him….Just have to move in if they come back just know the ball will be in our court this time
She sent me this last night word from word “So you should know I got a job offer for a vets office. I interview tomorrow. They asked for vet techs but I told them I’m not certified they said they’ll find a position for me since my plug told them my passion for animals is one in a million. Buuut yeah interview tomorrow morning. In the meantime I know your pretty good when it comes to research but I’ve been trying to call my recruiter for a week now. Left two msgs he’s not calling me back. Is there another Chicago office near by cuz I called the number off the website,….no help.”
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