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how can I get him to say and start acting on him missing me? this is so hard, ugh 🙁 I really miss him and want him back. ugh, thanks divjun
Right now I don’t think that there is anything you can tell him that will stop him acting this way. You need to keep up being nice to him, treat him well, speak nicely to him, don’t mention your feeling, let him come to you etc. Don’t push him in any way or form – if you do, his defenses will be up and nothing good will come of it (at least not right now). Let him contact you! I wouldnt go out and see other guys if your goal is to get him back, it will push him away (since you cheated, he needs to learn to trust you again and you don’t earn back his trust by getting with other men). It seems that maybe you should stop speaking to your daughters about the relationship between you and your husband – your oldest might feel that you’re to blame for the break up and therefore she is angry at you and taking your husbands side.
cassie thanks for the reply. your so right about everything you wrote. Im trying to let him look for me but its so hard stressful and depressing doing so. 🙁 was the message I sent him yesterday bad? do I sound like if I’ve pushed him in anyway? I dont recall that but did anything I write sound like I did? Im trying to let him look for me but if and when he does its only about the kids. 🙁 yeah im not gonna go out with other guys, im trying to stay busy exercising or hanging out or doing something. Im even trying to look for jobs and such so im trying to stay busy. 🙂 I do think my oldest does blame me for it and she has stated such. any idea on how to fix this, shes always lashes out on me and others have seen it. ugh I have a lot of issuses on my shoulders. I wish he’d come back but I feel hopeless. 🙁
btw are you ready for tomorrow? hows everything going with you. 🙂 and do you think I’ll ever het him back? thanks cassie for being there for me. 🙂
Does your oldest school have a therapist? It might help if she speaks to one. I think she definitely blames you and that’s why she is lashing out. She’ll get better with time though and until then, don’t involve her in the break up. You didnt push him away with the message but don’t do it again. I know that the whole situation is very depressing and hurtful but there is nothing you can do about it. You can try to stay busy so that you get other things on your mind. When you speak to your husband, if he makes you mad or anything, DO NOT SHOW HIM! No matter what stupid shit he may say or do, don’t let him know that it makes you angry or that it hurts you. No matter what, just always pretend that everything is fine and that you’re always nice. So freaking worried about tomorrow!!!
most likely Im just concern that my oldest would lie and then i’ll have dcf on my behind. yeah im pretty sure with time it’ll go away but this is really bad and I feel like with this she keeps getting in the way of my husband and I and this is a tiny bit of the problem why hes not looking for me but then again I could be wrong. ugh lol dont do what again? how should I reply next time? I know it just sucks wanting him back and having this huge problem on my shoulders. 🙁 im trying to be busy but some how he always pops up in there some how. :-/ I will try my hardest not to show him but its very hard hopefully I dont think I’ve shown it but with what I written do you think I’ve shown him anything? btw what does that do if its shown? your going to do great and be fine, just have a great time with him. 🙂
You’ll be more attracting to him if you don’t show anything and it will bother him as well so it could mean that he’ll start acting nicer towards you again. Have you talked to your husband about her? Maybe you two should discuss her misbehaving. If she only listens to your husband than it could be worth a try.
I see, I understand, I wish this would work I feel so lost. this really sucks I hate that. I have talk to him before and all his talked about was him getting her so if i can avoid it I will but may find myself having to do so. 🙁 I miss him so much, this sucks, ugh
@cassie thinking about what you were saying to me makes sense. oh no, I could have just said I was out atm I would let you know when you could get them. ugh I messed up big didnt I? also he hasnt called or text me at all. I really miss him, ugh my days feel so lonely with out him. 🙁 how can I ever get him back? this sucks. he may or may not contact the kids today who knows. ugh. on the bright side my oldest said she missed me at school today. 🙂 I feel so lonely without him, he completes me and my family. ugh, Im going to start crying. ugh. 🙁 I really dont know what to do. 🙁 any opinions? and yes I been working on me. this is so hard.:'(
Hey aamls. Dont lose your hope. If you miss him that much. He must be missing you too. Its hard for him also. Don’t worry everything happens for a reason. Stay positive. I am with you 🙂
aww thats so sweet of you. 🙂 im trying not to but its so hard when you want them back and you feel nothing is working. 🙁 im trying to stay positive but hes all I want. :'( thanks for your words. 🙂
You will get him back. He needs time and space. Don’t worry. Its all gonna be okay soon 🙂
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