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Sry it took me a while to reply ..
I had a rough week myself ..
so .. i was reading this “relationship rewind” book .. it says that you’re husband is in a “drift” stage .. in the most effective way to get him back is to establish a “False Friendship ” with him .. showing him that you chose friendship over relationship ..and contacting him as a friend ..
it’s a strange way .. but it might work ..
i thing you should read the book too .. you can download it for free on Google 😀your right but the thing that bothers me is not that he went to hang out but with who and to do what. lol I dont want him doing things he shouldnt. (to make it sound fair, I was his first in a few things, lol and this really bothers me, lol I wanna be the only one. hes mine. lol) 🙁 I really do hope the shirt thing was for me and I really hope he cant get me off his mind and can picture me crying so he feels guilty and doesnt do anything crazy. lol lets see what happens cant do much for now anyways. ugh lol but your right. how do you know hes noticing me more? also wouldnt he forget about me and find someone else?
Keep this in mind that HE CAN NEVER FORGET YOU and nobody can take your place ever. And he is telling her mom everytime he sees you that your getting slimmer. Anyways, you nees ro be strong and dont think about him that much. It will only bug you and wont help you in any way. You’re doing great just keep your mind off him.:)
thanks divjun your right. its just so hard to do this. hopefully everything works it self out. we shall see. ugh.
im trying but its so hard. ugh I really miss him and wished he’d be with us instead. ugh 🙁 thanks divjun
That is heartbreaking, and I completely understand why you feel hurt. But I really think the best thing you can do is limited contact just what is required for the kids. Also, let the kids see you doing nice things for yourself and getting healthy. I know you want him back, or you wouldn’t be here. But right now, try to focus on getting you emotionally good.
This situation is so hard because of the history and the kids.
Why don’t you use the oldest as your advantage? Create a sense of attraction around you so that she can tell her dad? If everyone around you see you as a positive and attracting person I’m 110% sure they’ll do anything to get in contact with you. Everyone wants someone that is happy and that is doing good for themselves, get a job, new clothes, style your hair in a different way and make him slowly fall in love with you. Since cheating has happened I don’t really think you should go out partying or date someone else, at least not now. You should rather focus on yourself and create a positive image around you so that you can attract him back! Your doing well, so keep it up. 🙂
Keep hanging in there girl! You are so strong and you cannot show weakness, it is the biggest turn off ever! You need to make a fake friendship and just note it’s only temporary! <3 good luck!
hey everyone thanks for the reply. 🙂 @sunshine. I understand what your saying. its true and thats what Ive been trying to do. this is so hard. 🙁 I miss him. @clear your right about that. good move. my oldest is always in a constant battle with me and trying to turn her father against me for her convenience. not cool at all. I guess in some way shape or form im suffering from depression even though im trying to fight it. I am looking for a job and its so hard to find. :-/ im trying to dress up every time hes around as well. he has notice I’ve lost a lot of weight not that I’ve asked for his opinion. the reason I mention to see others is because he’s doing it and I dont feel its fair, however I feel so lonely and want friends to talk to as well, but I dont think im going to do it. I miss him so much. 🙁 Im trying to work on myself but let me tell you its so hard to when all you want to do is get them back and when all you do is think about them constantly. 🙁 thanks for thinking im doing well. 🙂 I surely hope so. :-/ @divjun ugh, lol Im going to write an update after this post. lol. thanks for checking in on me. 🙂 I’ve read your updates and will comment on them shortly. 🙂 @HopelessRomantic thanks for your encouragement, it means a lot. 🙂 Im trying not to show weakness though its very hard. as much as I know I dont think I have shown any in front of him even though hes heard crap from my oldest. :-/ Im not sure the fake friendship will plan its self out atm because he keeps repeating the word awkward a few times and when I mentioned to him that we should hangout sometime he didnt say much. 🙁 so lets see where this journey takes me. ugh thanks, I will need it lol. 🙂
okay guys, so today I went to hangout. well yesterday remember how I mentioned my kids said my husband was gonna pick them up today. well he sent me a text saying he was gonna pick them up to take them to school tomorrow. I responded with were not home right now and im spending time with them thanks for the offer. he didnt reply or call me at all or anything. so my oldest got mad at me and called him to tell him crap about me and well my oldest told him where we were at, according to my oldest he didnt ask or anything about where we were at, but I hate that she told him as it was none of his business and I dont ask anything about him or anything. anyways he told her to call him later when we got home. we got home late so they never were able to call him. so with the above said. why do ya think he didnt respond back? (I thought it was time for me to stop being a door mat and was tired of him thinking he could make up his own schedule whenever he pleased so I had to respond this way and I didnt want him to come if they werent home.) Also do you think he for got about me and had to much of a good time last night that he was acting like a prick? I dont understand his way of acting. I hate it. ugh I feel so sad and depressed. I feel like ive lost him already and like hes not coming back. ugh can ya give me your thoughts on this. ugh thanks
It was okay. You just said that you were not at home but spending time with your kids. And he didn’t reply. It was normal. What was he supposed to reply? Don’t think too much.
And what your oldest told him was between a father and a child. You didn’t say anything to him right? Its all okay. Dont get depressed and give your mind a break. You’re thinking way too much.
Take care of yourself 🙂well I would at least expected an ok or something. ugh lol my oldest called from her phone and I didnt tell her to hang up or anything, however she did state that he “supposedly said that he would take her away from me for following her (which isnt true because I have the right to know what shes saying to him as shes known to lie about things and what not. I didnt talk to him at all. he hasnt called or text me for anything. if he will who knows, if he does it’d be for the kids and what not. ugh I feel like im the least thing in his mind and like he doesnt miss me at all and like im not gonna get him back. ugh :'( I miss him so much and want him back. ugh anyways im gonna keep trying to focus on me. and the rest I have no control over, even though I wish I did at times. thanks @divjun. 🙂
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