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my husband just dropped of the kids and left quick they said he was dressed up and asked if he looked nice. my oldest said she thinks hes going to a party. ugh could it even be a date? wtf? hes not that type of person. I thought everything was going great, I guess I was wrong. omg this aint fair or right. what can I do? or should do. supposedly he starts really early.
my oldest called my husband twice. shes fucking everything up for me. the first time was that she told him that she told me that he was dressed up and went to hang out. he told her why did she tell me. she told him I was crying and all. the second time was she called him and told him I was crying like a baby and idk what else. shes messing everything up for me and now Im not getting him back. what should I do? what can I do? anyone please help my oldest is ratting me out. she even told him I was texting someone and kept following me around and all. help please. anyone? thanks
You really need to focus on yourself aamls. You’re putting too much focus on what your husband is doing. It will drive you mad. It’s hard but you need to find a way to stop that line of thinking.
Have you considered talking to a therapist?
thanks for replying bguarino. I’ve been and have been improving. i just dont think its fair what hes doing and thats not him, matter fact he hates people. Im suffering and this aint fair. I have consider talking to one but dont have the money to do so. 🙁 ugh. :'(
hey he still worried about u !
if he didn’t, he won’t ask and he wouldn’t look up the window !
haha you did really well !(like we said you and him still have base)
well I think if you cried before your oldest, she would tell her dad,
he didn’t say “we won’t get back together” this time, right? instead of caring about you 😀hey it’s ok, just from this moment you can focus on yourself ! and your oldest WILL tell him that !
why your oldest tell your everything to her dad ? he let her do it ?
and the party is only the party, not a date, try to search more job then you can go to a party or so !@vanessa9 thanks for replying. im so heart broken right now as he went to hang out to a party with people from his job (this is so bad) or to hang out somewhere or maybe on a date. I feel so depressed. he told my oldest that why she told me. im really confused sad depressed stressed ect. I hate these feelings. and I hate that I miss him and feel like he doesnt miss me or he wouldnt be doing what hes doing. ugh. this aint fair. 🙁
im trying and its very hard. atm I have no idea what she’ll tell her dad. (she behaves horribly) 🙁 yes Im gonna keep trying to move forward. I really need the job as I really need the money and I can stay busy this way as well. :-/ I have no idea why she tells him everything. she treats me really bad and trys to manipulate me, but that aint working for me. all i ever hear from her is im gonna tell my daddy, so I tell her go ahead and tell your dad. and then she goes to call him and tells him whatever she wants. this is so difficult. ugh Im not sure what he lets her say to him but most likely he wont stop her either. I was thinking if he does this then I should try to look for dates and such. im not gonna sit here like an idiot anymore while hes over there acting ridiculous. it aint fair to me at all. how ever why would he get mad and tell my oldest why did she tell me? why would he care if I knew? also it didnt stop him from hanging out either. im just from now on gonna treat him nice when I see him and ignore everything else. im not gonna keep feeling this pain. one day he’ll grow up, but till then fuck him. I hope my feelings dont change later on, lol I really hate this. ugh 🙁
hey it’s normal to hang out with colleges or friends,
if your colleges invite you to party, of course you WILL go too!
and attend any social activity means nothing , I went to party but I still miss my ex, try to understand things by other’s side, good for you and you can do it 😀
ps: maybe next time show her smile or something not anger…you know young girls are negative 🙂
your situation is very complicated. it does suck about your oldest. it does sound like shes disclosing things she shouldnt be. i dont know what you could do. either ride it out, or do your best not to show her youre like that anymore. and that will work in your favor cause then shell be telling him how well youre doing
the people fro his job arent good people or the type of people he should be getting involved with. he was flirting or something with some girls from his job so it makes me think of that, those times and those females. then theres this crazy guy whos old and thinks hes young and invited my husband to this weekend at the beach and he kept saying he was gonna go and he didnt. the asshole (like I told my husband) had females there. this hurts me for various reasons. this sucks. my oldest ugh its another issue I have and apparently is a daddys kid. ugh :-[
@bramble thanks for replying. my oldest is a pain, lol I try not to cry in front of them but when they do see me crying and ask me why I say nothing and dont let them know why im crying. for all they know it could be because im sick or my fathers passing 3 months ago, which my husband left me 2 weeks after that. :'( anyways yes its very complicated. so im trying but that one I couldnt help and I left to my room to cry and of course they could all here me. ugh. but anyways it happened twice and then I went to go play a board game with them. ugh this sucks. my emotions are all over the place and i miss him so much. idk what to do anymore. what do you think of my whole situation in general and about everything that has been happening to me with him. my thing is I thought everything was going fine and I got fooled. this really hurt. I feel like he doesnt miss me and already forgot about me. im so hurt and confused. 🙁
@aamls.. lol… I really laughed out loud while reading that part.
I am sure that he was just looking for you. And he probably saw you and thats whybhe took off his shirt 😀
Remember you dressed nicely when you visited his job? I guess he is doing the same thing to impress you again.
He really cares for you.
When your oldest told him everything he still cared. In fact he asked your oldest why did she told you that he was dressed up. Trust me I am now 110% sure your getting him back but it will take time and you have to keep your head high and be strong.
You’re really doing great. And I have a suggestion for you. If you cheated on him then don’t go out on a date or make him feel jealous. He might think that you’re still the same. Good luck 🙂@divjun I wish what your saying is true. :-/ you have more hope in me then I have in myself lol. I hope he took it off for me lol, but thats only wishful thinking. :-/ yeah I know but I feel horrible about what hes doing and I feel lonely as well. also why was he going out? I feel so horrible and this is not like him to go hang out ect. Im so confused as to this. Im guessing he cant stay late as he has to work early but what I dont understand is why would he drop the kids of early to go to a party or whatever and why would he want to pick them up again tomorrow after work? hes not even letting me spend time with them. I need to put a stop into this or something. ugh. 🙁
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