I slept with my rebound… advice

[NeverGiveUp]

Many of you may have seen me on the blog for some time now… the background for those who havent is i dated my ex for almost 2 years.. broke up in july and tried going on a few dates in august to which she said she doesnt feel the spark and chemistry anymore. the next week i discovered she was doing a long distance relationship with someone she met abroad while at school.

Since ive accepted the breakup, ive went from being a “serial dater” to talking to two girls, and now just one. first off, I was dating so much to occupy my mind, and start to feel good about myself again.

I slept with my rebound girl last night for the first time. Afterwards as she cuddling up next to me… i could only think about my ex. About how my ex was so much better sexually, about how much i miss my ex, and how much my ex and I have in common.

I havent heard from my ex in over two months…. she ignored my text wishing her happy birthday. I feel like the Magic Letter wont work… so i havent really considered it.

What are your thoughts on my situation?

[Sunshine11]

I know that dating is supposed to help, but I just can’t see how it is fair to the other girls involved. In my last relationship before my current ex, I know one of the reasons it didn’t work is because we started dating before he was over his ex, so I could never really compare to her. And I have done it too, only I usually won’t go past 3 dates with someone I am not feeling it with especially if all I can think about is my ex. Finally, at the very end of our on-again/off-again relationship for of over six years, he told me that he wasn’t over his ex before me. But at the end he said he would choose me. It was too late though. Too much had happened. In his situation, he knew he wasn’t getting back together with her.

It is up to you, and I know it is really hard. And Kevin says going on dates with other people is part of the process. But sleeping with someone you don’t think is all that great compared to your ex, isn’t being very honest with that other person. And if you do get back with your ex, do you want to explain that you have been sleeping with other women?

If you really feel like the magic letter won’t work, then maybe try a different route. Or just do your best to heal and wait until you meet someone who your ex doesn’t even hold a candle to. Easier said than done. That is why we are here though.

[TravelBug]

Don’t go sleep with your rebound. It won’t make you feel better plus you don’t want to break someone else’s heart. You know what it’s like to be heartbroken. You should go on dates but don’t get intimate with them until you are ready.

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