I proposed my Ex.. All went Wrong..Plz help!!

[mohit1526]

We had 5 Yrs of Relation when she broke up with me..I
followed all the steps..No Contact,attraction etc.
she even felt guilty for what she did..we were friends
from past 3 months & everything was going fine.
yesterday I proposed her but she clearly denied saying
she can’t forget the bad memories as our breakup was
very bad.
she said that we can’t be in a relation ever & I should
move on with my life.. i’m really confused & upset
about this..
Do I really have any chance now or should I consider
moving On?
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[Simone]

Did you become friends very quickly after the break up? its seems like the wound is still very fresh someone once told me and it made a lot of sense that give yourself and ur ex space and room to breath in time you will forget all the negative things asscoicated with what happened in the break up and will start to miss the good things and maybe then u can start buidling again

[mohit1526]

I took a No contact for about 40 Days before Contacting her & We were friends from about 3 Months..Its a difficult situation for me now. I can’t figure out whether I should forget about her & move on with my life now or Go for No Contact again… Reaching out this time after a No contact is going to be difficult & will show me needy when she has clearly told me to move on.

[Alerie]

Oh nooo. Did you propose as in marriage or propose to get back together?
Well either is wrong. The second time around, she should be the one to say or even open up the idea of getting back together.
You have to apologize first though. Tell her you’re sorry you acted rashly. Tell her that you were just caught in the moment or something like that.
You still have a chance though but obviously she’s still not ready.
Just give her some time. Don’t push her and don’t be needy.
Just be there for her.
If she’s ready, she’ll be the one to suggest that you get back together again.
Now help me out will you? Hahaha.

[mohit1526]

its been a week since we contacted each other..Should I text her now with a sorry for how I reacted?
sincerely saying,The friend zone is a much more difficult phase to handle than No contact phase.. 🙁

[Alerie]

It depends, really.
What does your gut tell you?

[mohit1526]

I really felt uncomfortable in the friend zone.. May be because I wanted us to get back together soon..I was taking it slow but I never felt comfortable in that.

[Alerie]

If it really is love, then there’s no need to rush, you know?

[Alerie]

Just take things slow. You’re just friends temporarily

[mohit1526]

I don’t know what exactly she feels for me.. she broke up because of constant fights & lack of trust between us saying me she don’t feel the love anymore..& then the things got worst between us..

I went to No contact & reached out..She said she missed me & still got some feelings in her heart for me somewhere..
But I told her that I was not comfortable with bieng friends & she clearly put her defenses up saying we can’t get back ever.
I’m now confused whether I should leave her alone to forget bad things.

[Alerie]

Try to not contact her for a week. If she reaches out to you.. Then you get your answer.

[kalicooldude]

Work on 3 things :- I am not expert
Patience
Patience
Patience

If you can’t than it will spoil even the friendship zone and than you will have no chance at all.
And if you are in hurry and can’t control your emotions and wanted to get in relationship very fast than you should move on.

Decision is yours.She is hurt and it will take some time to be back with her.

How long was your NC ? and for how long you both were dating ?

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