I don’t know what to do

[STFNY_13]

Hi
So me and mi ex broke up four months ago. We dated for months and we broke in july, He broke up with me saying that I would start fights too much and that he couldn’t handle it. He wanted to take a break to focus on school (he has 1 year left) and work. He said that what I was asking from him in relationship he couldn’t give it to me. He loved me so much but after all the begging I did after we broke up one day he said he didn’t love me when I asked him. I kept begging up until 6 weeks ago when I sent him the last text message saying to lend me a book he bought me but he never replied. I have met him I few times after we broke up we used to live together so I would use excuses like I forgot something at his house, and he would always be helpful but that last time I texted him he didn’t reply, and his co worker asked him about me and he told her about the text I sent him and that he wasn’t going to reply Like I said I thought that after starting the no contact he would message me just to ask how I am doing but never not even once he has started a conversation with me just because he wanted to know about me and how I was doing. It has always been me who would contact him. His co worker also says that he keeps telling everyone that he wants to be alone for a while. However he also said the last time he saw me I looked really pretty and that he liked the outfit I had on. I know he still loves me at least a little bit, in those few time we met after we broke up he would flirt with me and some times get nervous when I would get too close or just look at him straight in the eyes. he is 37 and I’m 22. I want to give it another try but I don’t know if he has forgotten me already. Please help me.

[hopefullywaiting]

@STFNY_13 i think you need to keep up with no contact to focus on yourself for a bit. clear your mind, improve yourself. we all hope that our ex will contact us during the “no contact” period, but sometimes these things just take more time, especially when your ex has heard from you regularly after the breakup.

take this time to do things for yourself – workout, read books, get a massage, etc. have you set goals for yourself in the past 6 weeks?

i know it’s very difficult to not talk to him or hear from him, but you can do this.

keep us posted.

[STFNY_13]

@hopefullywaiting I have been going to the gym and focusing on myself I don’t think of him as often as I used to when we first broke up. I go out with friends and just live my own life. I wouldn’t care if we don’t get back together if he really doesn’t want to, however I’m the type of person who hates just not talking to someone you were friends with or dated just because you broke up or had a fight. I want to be friends with him again…there are so many things that I wish I could tell him( not about us but about funny memes or something interesting that happened to me during the day) just something casual and I hate the fact that I can’t contact him bc he would think that I am looking to get back with him when I just want to keep in contact with him. I don’t know what to do.

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