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August 9, 2014 at 7:04 am #2051
Don’t worry, i understand you.continue NC and follow the plan.doesn’t matter what she did,didn’t.you can change everything.
August 9, 2014 at 3:27 pm #2086my whole bday was hell she did call me in the evening …but i didnt pik up den she called.my other fone..i didnt pik that either…
then i went fr a party wid frnds..i gt a msg frm her saying happy birthday… …i didnt rply at all..i was really angry …
den i njoyed a lot at party then went fr a late nite mvi…
i thot of rplying her..bt after wat she did..i coulnt bring myself to do so…so i didnt respond at all…
i mean i was some steps away yet she didnt.wish me…n she thnks she cn call me.nytym n i shall pik up..
August 9, 2014 at 3:45 pm #2090You did the right thing.focus on yourself and follow the plan.
Best of luck
August 9, 2014 at 11:36 pm #2189thnku i thot i shud have replied her….
im still thinking of that…
as it might show that i didnt.care.if she wished me late or at all…August 10, 2014 at 2:14 pm #2309Stop thinking about what she may be thinking i’m only suggesting.But the decision is up to you and no matter what i will always support you.
August 10, 2014 at 11:23 pm #2372i dont know how cn i ever thnku u enof…bt everyone who knows my case suggest me i shud nt rply her….
bt i cn not b rude to nyone…i hav a guilt feeling…so not rplying her makes me think about it…i managed a day without it…but i keep thinking i shud not have been rude..
i mean she saw me she cud have came up and wished me…but she didnt even didnt think how will i feel…
she was goin home i gt a call and a text while she was at her home….
but i was hurt so neither i picked up no i replied….but nw u feel guilty ….
August 11, 2014 at 6:23 am #2389Should I tell my ex that I am doing no contact?
Ideally no. You want them to wonder what happened to you and why you are not contacting them. You want to be on your ex’s mind as much as you can. And telling them you are not contacting for some time will defeat this purpose.
However, if your ex is currently calling you everyday or texting you everyday, then yes you should let them know that you don’t want them to contact you for a short period of time. Don’t give them any specifics. Just tell them to not contact you until you decide to contact them. Let them know you need some space and time right now.
Wouldn’t it be rude if I don’t contact my ex?
Wasn’t it rude of your ex to break your heart and leave you begging them to take you back? And yet, you’ll still do anything to be with them. Sometimes, rudeness is not as bad as you think it is.
Besides, you are doing no contact for your own mental peace and well-being. There is nothing rude about taking care of yourself.Should I answer my ex’s text during no contact?
NO. Absolutely not. Whatever happens, don’t answer their text.
Should I answer my ex’s call during no contact?
No. You shouldn’t answer your ex’s call. The only exception to this is if you are close to ending your no contact and you are already feeling great about your life. If you think that talking to your ex will have you obsessing about them again, don’t answer their call.
August 11, 2014 at 6:24 am #2390So calm down,and you are doing the right thing 🙂
August 11, 2014 at 1:38 pm #2484thnku jst keep explaining me rite nw i dnt know whether i wnt her bak or not….i mean i know i was the screw uo bt she did play wid my emotions i cannot let her do that again…
ppl still tell me about her roaming with boys n in india…its not common…and it still hurts a lot wen i come to know all this…
August 12, 2014 at 7:00 am #2548Ask your friends not to say anything about her to you.
You are confused,continue NC as long as you are not sure if you want her back or not.August 12, 2014 at 7:46 am #2563she called again my fone was on silent ….she msg me absurf things..so i gt agitated and called her bak and we had a huge fite..
August 12, 2014 at 8:22 am #2570You should restart NC.
August 12, 2014 at 12:21 pm #2604i know…but y is she doin this..first she says that im over u..n den suddenly calls and dumps all the bullshit frm the past on me again…makng me feel bad..y ?
August 12, 2014 at 3:03 pm #2635She is confused and she is not over you.stop overanalyzing her words and actions.focus on yourself,continue your plan and please don’t break it this time.
August 12, 2014 at 4:02 pm #2639a.z,
Sorry to hijack this but I had a development and posted in my “50 yr old ex” thread/ Please give a read and share your advice. Thx -
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