How to know if your ex is playing games

[jaici]

I get so many mixed signals from my ex and it drives me up the wall.
He tells me he still loves me and misses me and that he wants time to think about us and what he wants.
But sometimes when he talks to me he briefly brings up other girls he is talking to or doesn’t act like he wants to get back with me.
He has had plenty of time to think about what he wants. If he really wanted to be back with me, wouldn’t he be?
Like when we hang out (this has only happened twice, we were long distance) all focus is on me and telling me how much he misses this. That is when I can believe him. This is when he really acts like it.
I asked him once if he had thought about us at all and he changed the subject so I didn’t push it.
He is also going to Europe for three weeks, so I thought maybe he is thinking of getting back with me after then because he wants to be single and that’s why he wont talk about it with me. I don’t know, there really is no way to tell.
I just wonder if he is stringing me along because he likes the thought of someone chasing him, or if he really is confused and thinking about it.
This is getting exhausting. But somehow the thought of telling him we shouldn’t talk anymore makes me want to curl up in a ball under my bed for the rest of my life. He is my very best friend. It’s gonna hurt like hell to lose him all over again.
Kevin/anyone have any ideas?

[rlpolo3]

Hey there, I feel like I have to respond because I am going through the same thing. Your ex is doing the same thing to you and mine is doing to me. I think we represent security to them. In the event that something else does not work out they want us around as back up. It hurts, but this is probably what is happening. For example, my ex told me she was in love with me a few days ago. We hung out almost all of last week. She asked me to start over. Yesterday she told me that she was in love with someone else. I told her to leave me alone – not to text me or call me and to respect my privacy. She then proceeded to tell me that I was her best friend and sent me a half naked picture. I told her to stop and said goodbye. She then deleted me off facebook and now I just got a text from her that says, “Can you come over?” This is the push pull scenario. She wants me to chase her and now that I am avoiding her she’s pissed. I think the same thing might be happening to you. Be strong and don’t give in. It might be the only way for them to realize what they had.

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