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If you read any of my past topics you would understand more of my situation… I was in a long relationship, but this is our third time breaking up. The first time was because I misunderstood, second was because I had a lot of inner issues and now the third is because I kept getting mad and arguing. I truly am working on myself permanently now instead temporary. This is day one of NC for me, should I wait a month or longer? Last time we broke up it took almost a year before he was willing to become friends which ended up in a relationship… I asked him yesterday (last day of talking) if we could become friends and he told me “Not right now honestly I can’t because I know how it goes” which I knew he was saying how if we became friends then we would be back to the same relationship. He’s told me a couple days ago that he thinks we aren’t good and never will be (but hopefully I can finally change for the better, I’m not horrible but I do get mad easily 🙁 ) How long should I wait before contacting? He’s in a rebound right now and did say he was happier without our relationship…
Too many breakups and too many arguments, plus he’s in a relationship and he’s happier without you. Go no contact for a month or two ~ then maybe you can be friends. He already told you that you weren’t good together. Yes, you should make changes, but stop thinking he might want another relationship with you!
Sorry to be so blunt, but you need to face facts. Focus on yourself and do some things you enjoy. Stop dwelling on him!He’s not in a relationship. It’s harder when you’re in high school and grew up with each other. I mean we’re young, I’m not too hard on myself with the mistakes I made. This was both of our first and only real serious relationship, it would be different if I was in my 40’s and making these mistakes I personally believe. I’m learning but eventually I will get to be where I need to be 🙂 thank you for the advice Patricia. Hope you have a good one 🙂
Sorry, guess he only had sex with her. You still have a chance if you change to become a more relaxed person about everything and not start arguments. Now it’s day 2 of no contact and continue at least 3 1/2 more weeks. Good luck..
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