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February 19, 2015 at 6:51 am #31849
Hi all,
I really need some help and advice so yesterday I got a text from my girlfriend telling me she no longer wants to be in a relationship with me,We have had a very tough year unfortunately we lost a baby and then 2 weeks later she lost her nan, she sent me a text saying that she can no longer trust me and does not want to be in a relationship with me she also said that she still wants to be friends and then maybe we might get back together, she wants to meet up on Friday to talk about things instead of text.
I have no idea what it is going on I haven’t texted her today and I’m not going till until Friday.What do I do and what do I say I’m so confused and so in love with her I thought us loosing a baby together would make us stronger but I guess not please help me I don’t want to loose her at all
ThanksFebruary 19, 2015 at 7:40 am #31855Go no contact, it will work. Or meet her, but don’t beg for her. Don’t agree to be just friends. Be brave!
February 19, 2015 at 7:56 am #31858Should I still meet her Friday???
February 19, 2015 at 7:59 am #31859You know what. Yes. Don’t deny her that. But yield to overcome. Don’t be reactive to what she says. Show you are independent if you have to be.
Stay calm, take a deep fucking breath. And wait.
February 19, 2015 at 7:59 am #31860Remember she is feeling exactly what you are feeling right now.
February 19, 2015 at 8:04 am #31862Thanks very much buddy for your advice I do have so many questions to ask should I jump straight in with them or should I just make a casual convo first?
February 19, 2015 at 8:07 am #31863Don’t ask any questions. It took me a little while to realise you probably don’t need to ask them. You were in the relationship too, stop and thinking objectively about it and you’ll find out the answer yourself.
I have fucked things with my relationship as it stands, so don’t do what I did.
February 19, 2015 at 8:08 am #31864Just listen to her. Just do that.
February 19, 2015 at 8:09 am #31865‘maybe we might get back together’
There’s your answer to everything, just be patient. You spent a long time together, you think she’ll forget you in a week?
February 19, 2015 at 8:14 am #31867Ok thanks I’m glad I found this site because I like to talk and express my feelings what did you do to mess your relationship up if you don’t mind me asking? I’m from the UK by the way so please don’t take my arrogance or anything to offend you
February 19, 2015 at 8:18 am #31868I did everything you’re thinking about doing.
February 19, 2015 at 8:22 am #31869Oh ok sorry man so what’s you opinion do you think I can get her back??
February 19, 2015 at 8:53 am #31878Don’t know mate. Don’t think about it like that. Just be calm, be accepting.
Take some time to process the information you have found here. No overthinking now.
February 19, 2015 at 10:01 am #31897Ok thanks bud, I guess I’m just misserable without her at the mo I’m still going to the gym and keeping myself preoccupied
February 19, 2015 at 7:25 pm #32060It’s been a matter of days for you man. You know what I wouldn’t do is consider things too much. Take your stuff back and have faith. As long as you didn’t do anything wrong you’ll be ok. However, if you did do something wrong then think about it and apologise. Don’t grovel, just accept your misdoings. Be a man.
She will tell you all you need to know when you meet. And don’t come one here too much if you can, accept where you are and don’t let it cloud your judgement. Seek advice only when you need it. Take your time, make the right moves and then come back here.
I had the chance to resolve things two weeks ago with my partner, I just didn’t know it at the time because I wasn’t thinking clearly. Missed it.
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