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Hey,
I live in Japan. My Japanese bf broke up with me. He’a a workaholic and since he moved to a big company he became really busy and he has tendency of being commitment phobic although I only heard about commitment phobia issue from his friends. The reason he broke up with me, he said that he’s too busy for a relationship right now even though he still loves me but he knows he can’t be emotionally available all the time so it’s better that we break up because he feels that he can’t give what I want. But I think he just freak out because our relationship was getting really serious and we became really comfortable with each other. Anyway,
I’ve been doing NC for almost 3 weeks. I’m stronger, have been busy with my life and even went to a date so I think I’m ready to make contact again. I also have purchased “relationship rewind” so I read it and it says that there’s no need to do the NC for that long if i’m ready and can contact him in proper and correct way. So I did, I was with my friend and I found a winter dish even though it’s summer now. We used to eat that dish together and we love it so I sent him a picture and message saying that I found a restaurant that sell that winter dish when I was hanging out with my friend.
But he didn’t reply.
What do you think about our situation and what should I do after this? Thanks in advanceHey! Over all I think he was a little rude not to reply, I think it’s one of those situations you will be annoyed with yourself for sending the message in the first place and you probably thought it was something nice and friendly to send…which it was. The only thing I can say is you now know not to bother making first contact again and wait for him to do it. If he does see how you feel about replying and take it from there.
Totally agree with Villians. It wasn’t wrong on your part to send that pic. He’s most certainly still emotionally unstable now hence he didn’t reply to you. He very likely took it as a sign of you trying to reconcile which he isn’t ready for. There really isn’t anything that you can do about it unless he contacts you of your own. You texted him,so the ball is in his court entirely. He knows you are approachable so he will contact you if he feels like. Besides that,there’s nothing other than moving on improving your life,really. Sometimes the timings might just not be right to make a new beginning.
Nice and honest way of contact. Good job.
For starters, stop contacting him and start the no contact rule as well. Stay away from him for 30 days and then send him a message. If he doesn’t respond, then he is still doing no contact. Give him another 15 days and then try contacting him again. If he still doesn’t respond, then you can either try again after 15 days or try to move on (my advice will be to move on, but I have a feeling you won’t take it).
Source: https://exbackpermanently.com/get-your-ex-back-when-he-wont-talk-to-you/
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