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Went over and it went better than I could imagine. We are fully back together in a committed relationship 🙂 couldn’t be happier.. Thanks again!
Not really sure how to take this..spending time with him and he is being quite unaffectionate.. It’s like he wants to be with me but doesn’t come close..last night invited me over and the night before he came to my house..I had to ask him for a goodnight kiss and even then it was more friend like… Not sure if he is still confused or just has a lot on his mind..he’s not affectionate to begin with but trying to understand where his head is at…
How long was the break up?
Try this for a full week:
Be cool. Don’t argue. Don’t show any frustration about not kissing. Start giving him a little more space.
Without announcing it or telling him.
He should respond more to you after a couple of days.
Even if it’s a little stubbornness, after a few days I’d be affectionate. And not just make up sex. I usually aim to kiss as much as I can. But not every person is crazy affectionate and that’s OK.
But you said your sensing a “vibe”
Could it be:
Family problems?
He had a stomach flu?
Something on the news that affected him?He should respond after a couple of days.
He has a high pressure job and it could be part of it.. I don’t know..he’s distant. We had make up sex 3 days ago the day we got back together. He’s totally not an affectionate person but this is a bit different in the sense that he is colder then ever but yet wants to spend time together. I’m not getting upset but did say that I wanted a good night kiss and he was humming and hawing and gave me a pec. I didn’t push it and said goodnight. The break up was about 3 weeks but we got back together for a few days briefly in between.
hey,
Give him some time to deal with everything,be supportive and nice to him.don’t look needy.be calm and patient.always be cool,happy and positive.Bigger problems then ever :(. So..we spent most of the weekend together and at some point Saturday, I noticed condoms in his bag… We don’t use them…and I’ve been dating him for a year.(I’m fixed!) I’m pretty sure they weren’t there before. He has asked me to go into his bag to get him several things and never condoms. I asked him about it and all he’ll broke loose. He said that they were in his bag before my time and that I crossed lines with him and had trust issues. I agree that I did not handle the situation properly but I was at least 95 percent sure the condoms weren’t there before. There still is that 5 percent…I told him that we have been apart and he has been distant and that my only conclusion is that he used confirms with someone else… After a night of apologies and begging, he said he was done for good. I eventually said.. Ok. Sorry you feel that way and I’m sure there are other people out there for us and left. He had a surprised look on his face but agreed. I still am hoping this can be resolved. At the end of the day I need to feel safe and loved in a relationship and he wasn’t giving me that. I won’t contact him Snc will only see or speak to him if he comes back wanting this as much as I do. What do you think?
I agree. Don’t contact him or reply at least for awhile.
I hope he shows more effort.
Im sorry to say this and if I sound like a as*hole I apologize I don’t feel comfortable saying this, but he sounds like he’s being completely inconsiderate about your feelings. And to me that’s not cool. And if he’s not sure, he shouldn’t do that to you.
He needs to know what he’s missing out on. And you seem like a great woman to him.
I wouldn’t contact him for awhile. Give him the space to review himself so then he contacts you. He knows you love him.
And if he doesn’t, his loss. But I think he’ll contact you again.
Also next time, if you want to be extra certain you did everything right, I’d highly recommend this first before going NC: leave a nice positive text. To leave them with an attractive positive thought so it makes it easier for them to contact. Then go full NC.
Thank you..I hope so but right now I’m falling apart and am trying to find strength…I won’t contact him no matter what but just feel awful…
I edited my last post to clarify.
Next time I’d recommend leaving something nice and positive before going no contact. It makes it easier.
Since you already went NC now, I think your good for now.
But next time don’t leave the fight where you pleaded or begged before going NC.
Stay strong. Don’t contact. Be happy knowing your doing everything right.
He was being an inconsiderate ass to you.
The face to face arguments are tough.
Im my situation, if I told my ex what you said “sorry you feel that way, I’m sure there are other people out there for us”
She would throw that in my face. Throwing a jealous tantrum saying “goood go get those b*tches!!”
Every time she contacted me she threw it in my face anyway that I probably slept with a gazillion women since we broke up.
And it bothers her now that I don’t react to that. I try to give her zero ammunition.
No when we argue I leave something simple and positive and leave out as much bitterness as I can.
It’s harder for her to win or complain gossip to others that way. Which in essence makes it less messy.
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