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August 10, 2014 at 8:40 am #2230
I think at this point, I’m done communicating with him. He knows I love him but I know my worth. Any further communication I initiate WL not make me feel good and will make him doubt that I wAs serious about how I felt. If he really wants to make things right, he will contact me. I just hope I didn’t completely push him away?? I want him to come back whole heartedly or not at all and it has to come from within him. I just don’t know of he will at this point and how to handle it if he does…
August 10, 2014 at 8:55 am #2233You did nothing wrong.start NC and break it when he contacts you.
August 10, 2014 at 9:21 am #2242Thanks a.z for all your support. I will do just that:)
August 10, 2014 at 10:18 am #2250Your welcome,best of luck 🙂
August 11, 2014 at 11:41 am #2437For some reason I had a week moment and broke. I texted him Sunday and said “how can you do this to us? Our relationship meant a lot to me and I hate that this has happened to us” he responded ” I understand but I can’t change how I feel or think about things” and I replied ” you said you would try and I wasn’t seeing it. I love you” (I know pretty bad right?) then I asked if we can get together and talk tonight and he agreed. I know I’ve made some mistakes here..it was at a point of weakness which I’m usually pretty strong. I feel like I get mixed messages from him. How do I handle tonight? I know he’s gonna say I don’t see us working and if I ask him to try he might agree but not give it his all. He will give me resistance either way. I don’t want to sound needy although yesterday was probably not a good day. I want to appear strong but soft and want him to agree to try in a committed relationship. I really need advice which I know I must start to listen to.. Nothing else is working!
August 11, 2014 at 12:09 pm #2455I keep writing s.th here but i can’t find it.
August 11, 2014 at 12:22 pm #2463hey,
When you meet him tonight,be super attractive,super confident,calm and relaxed.
Tell him its right that you love him,but none of you is forced to make anything work.and if you wanted to make things work,it because you cared and if he doesn’t feel the same way,you understand it and you are sure that there are thousands of opportunities out there for both of you to find happiness.August 11, 2014 at 12:23 pm #2464Tell him you care about being good friends in a relationship so you can love ,understand and respect each other without arguing.
August 11, 2014 at 12:25 pm #2465Say that you never want to convince him into doing anything and you wanted to make everything clear and if he thinks thats not working,you are fine with it and you respect his decision.
August 11, 2014 at 12:25 pm #2466Be cool positive and confident during the conversation.don’t worry about anything.its not over.even if he says its not working he will contact you again.
August 11, 2014 at 12:26 pm #2468Ok will do. I have one question for you..what is the theory behind telling him there are thousands of opportunities for us..I mean do I need to highlight that?
August 11, 2014 at 12:27 pm #2470You are truly amazing a.z for taking the time to help me btw..I really think you are great with this stuff and I appreciate the encouragement!
August 11, 2014 at 12:31 pm #2473That sentence shows that you are confident,you want him,but you don’t need him to be happy with your life, and he will know that you can find happiness with someone else.
August 11, 2014 at 12:32 pm #2474Ok and how do you read that he is still communicating and is on the fence or resisting but still wants to see me?
August 11, 2014 at 12:32 pm #2475Ok and how do you read that he is still communicating and is on the fence or resisting but still wants to see me?
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