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Hi!
Its been 1.5 year since me and my ex girlfriend bruke up and it was a bad break up to.
We do have two Kids togheter and we was enganged.After the break up she did find a New boyfriend after 3 weeks and yes, i did feel like trass.
But after the break up she told me that we can try again, but did change her mind and did stay with her New boyfriend.
But after all this time, she always Come to me with her problems and problems with the New boyfriend, about her life. And yes if i meet a girl, she always want to know for how Long, what she likes and stuff like that.yes i Would do everything to get her back !
But i dont know how ? What shall i do ?
I know that this girl is the love of my life, my feelings are so streng, like the first time i meet her !I need some good advice on what to do.
@sadman29 Ask to have a conversation about the possibility of reconciliation. Both of you must be willing to have this talk.. Then discuss what went wrong and how to fix it. Reuniting with her will be good for the children too if the relationship between all of you can be stable and happy.
Yes! I have been thinking about that, and i dont know if its a good time for that, now thats she is about to leave her boyfriend now.
We have been talking Much more this days, and after 1.5 year apart it feels like a new start.Earlier this summer she told me that she did want to try again, but it didnt happend, so how can i feel or get something that can give me a feeling thats she miss me ? Is there some signs i can look for or ?
She har told me, what we had was real ! Beacuse we almost get married!
But something so real, cant she lose those feelings ?@sadman29 Wait until after she leaves the boyfriend and then ask to have a serious discussion about the possibility of reuniting. If you’re on quarantine, maybe do this by phone. It’s difficult to determine if she misses you unless she says so.. But real feelings of love don’t disappear quickly!
How long were you together?
We have Kids togheter,so we have to see each other once a week ! But mabye i do it over the Phone.
I Just see that she calls me Almost every day, and it looks like she like takling with me again, and mabye 1.5 year apartheid and she now see what we had.
So i hope that she still feel something, when she told me 3 week ago that what we had was genuin and real !We was togheter for 2 years, then we did move to a new place, i did move away from my family,so she came closer to her family, after that it whent bad, we was to close everyday and non of us had a lot of friends at that print.
@sadman29 Do you visit the children at her place every week? Does she still have a boyfriend? How long have they been together? Does he live with her?
Because she is the one initiating phone calls frequently, it does sound like she misses you, even if she doesn’t say it. You could ask her if she will consider re-uniting.
I have to drive me kids to her place after i had them one week, we have them 50/50 so one week with me and one with her.
Yes she still have a boyfriend,but its not good, i know that beacuse she always Call me when something are wrong and if she is not happy, she tells me everything !
They have been togheter for around 1.5 year, she did meet him 3 weeks after we did break up, and yes he is living with her, but they have arguet all the time,Yes, she is always calling me first, so i have been thinking alot and its have to be a reason why she tells me everything!
Yes, i do want to ask her that, but im afraid that she dont tell me the truth! Like she hide her feelings, i dont know why.
Now i am Even more confused, today when she did call me again, she told me that she now want a man like me, family man Who love to take care of the girlfriend after the kids are in bed, someone that can make her feel special like i did !
And she told me that she is done and did break up with her boyfriend !
I almost ask if she mabye want to try again, but i didnt beacuse i think its to Early, but i ask her if she did remember our wedding plans, and how unusual we did want it, and she did and i did get a good laugh from her, Even she has a rough time now !Is this a good sign ? Or do i Just get my hope up for nothing ? I mean she could say i want a family man insted og a person like me! Its been so Long that im afraid to lose her before i mabye get my change
@sadman29 Why did she break up with you??
Yes, it’s a good sign she calls you. Glad to hear she broke up with the boyfriend. Did he move out of her place yet?
Sometime soon you need to ask her if she is willing to consider re-uniting.
Good luck:)
I did break up with her, beacuse if was alot of discussion, and she wasnt ready for a family life at that point! She was 24 and i was 27 at that point !
She har problem to get ham out of her place, he dont want to move or realise that its over for them !
But now i know that she is ready for it, and mabye she realise now what we had !Yes, its looks like i have to grow me some balls and ask about that ( we use that expression in Norway ) i reallt hope she can be honest with me now and see that i only want to make her happy!
Thank you so much for lissen to me ! It helps alot !
@sadman29 You’re welcome..
I hope he moves out soon, but if he doesn’t, she should call the police to get him out.
I think she should do that ! Not for me, but for her kids, so they can be happy also ! And i really dont hope she is lying to me about that she want a guy like me, to me it sounds like she misses me and what we had !
@sadman29 Why did she break up with you?? Yes, it sounds like she misses you.
Even if she didn’t want to get married, you have kids together (ages?) and you could have stayed together as a family!!
Are you now living with your parents?
Beacuse she wasnt ready for family life, we did argu alot, but the Main reason for the break up was that she did want a party life at that point, and i did want family life !
Yes, she did want to get Married, and yes, she should fight to hold a family togheter ! Our kids are 5 and 2 year.
No, i live alone and have been doing that for 1.5 years now.
And i have tried dating, but it dont feel right, beacuse its not her !
So i have to try everything to get her back!@sadman29 Wow, now I can understand why there might be arguments, because she wanted a party life and you wanted a family life. Hopefully, she has matured since the breakup and is thinking more about being a family rather than going to parties or nightclubs! But I’m a little confused because you said she wanted to get married? Being married means settling down with the man you claim to love and the children.. doing what’s best for the whole family. Did she want to get married and yet still continue on with the party life?
The breakup was more than 1.5 years ago when she was 24 and afterwards, she did mention trying again.. so now that she’s not getting along with the boyfriend and she calls you often, she is probably thinking more about reuniting. Sometime soon (maybe next time you see her when you drop off the kids), ask her if she will think about having a discussion about the possibility of reconciliation.
PS: Don’t bring up other women and consider not dating for a while until the situation with your ex works out one way or the other.. You want her back so I can understand why dating someone else would not feel good.
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