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March 19, 2015 at 3:36 am #37067
@elli96 I agree with Mj. I think you need to do a bit of no contact. He’s managed to worm his way back in again and he knows it. Just show him strength, it will freak him out
March 19, 2015 at 6:58 am #37070I texted him last night and I was like “figured you wouldnt text me lol” and he texted me back “working all day, don’t play that game” and then I basically told him I’m not playing a game it is just hard to know whether he is sincere or not anymore and that I’m sorry for being rude about it. I didn’t get a response back at all.
I was thinking about texting him “I knew it” later on today if he hasn’t texted me by then. I think if I text him that and then not respond afterwards it will freak him out a little bit? Then my last words wouldn’t be “I’m sorry for being rude” and it leaves a mystery. You know?
March 19, 2015 at 7:06 am #37072@ellie96 obviously it is completely up to you. But from an outsiders point of view, it looks a little bit like you are chasing him. I really don’t mean that in a horrible so please don’t take offense to it! I can see what you mean and what you would want to achieve with it, but I think in this situation silence speaks volumes, and it would probably freak him out and have more of an affect being silent, then it would anything else!
March 19, 2015 at 9:02 am #37084@KD1988 Agreed! Should I text him “I knew it” and then don’t text him at all? Just so then he is left with a cliff hanger or what?
March 19, 2015 at 9:19 am #37088@ellie96 If I was you I wouldn’t even bother with the “I knew it” text. Because I imagine he is probably expecting something along those lines from you, because he is playing mind games. I would literally keep silent. That will bother him a hell of a lot more!
March 19, 2015 at 9:21 am #37089March 19, 2015 at 9:23 am #37091@ellie96, as much as it sucks…. I would go straight back to NC! Not necessarily strict… but if he messages you (which I’m sure he will once he realises that you are not messaging him) then I would maybe ignore the first couple of messages, or do not reply straight away. then when you do get in contact just be like “oh, sorry, been really busy…” will make him wonder what you have been up to!
March 19, 2015 at 9:27 am #37092@ellie.. babe i ll suggest u to do strict nc. You are not in a good place right now. Texting him back will also mean you are still there. Take a break sweetie. You dont have to cause yourself pain. He has to see you are going and he has to decide what he wants. You have to be determined in order to get what you want.
March 19, 2015 at 9:27 am #37093@KD1988 That sounds like a good plan! I think my anxiety was up so much about this last night is because I haven’t taken my anxiety medicine in 2 days, so that is probably why. But, what else should I do to not only grasp his attention but to keep me from concentrating souly on this?
March 19, 2015 at 9:29 am #37094@divjun I know! :/ You know I am sticking around because he could be sick. I just don’t know how to do all of this without ignoring the fact that he is sick and that he may need someone :/
March 19, 2015 at 9:32 am #37095March 19, 2015 at 10:00 am #37103@KD1988 I just don’t want it to bother me as much. I want to figure out ways not to let it bother me. I want to be in that good place. I just hate all of this.
March 19, 2015 at 10:01 am #37104I know hun. You got to that place before, you can get there again!
March 19, 2015 at 10:42 am #37115Hi guys I’ve written the final draft of my letter. Could you pls have a look and tell me what you think. I would appreciate it a lot.
March 19, 2015 at 11:48 am #37132@ellie i agree with KD, you can be there for him when he needs you to. You dont have to make yourself think that he needs you all the time! Its like when he really needs someone by his side he would reach out to you.
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