Ex has a new boyfriend after only 3 weeks

[steeld8]

Hi so me and my ex were together for 7 months and she broke up with me on July 7th. I was totally blindsided. Everything seemed fine and even the last time we hung out we had sex and had a fun time together. During the breakup she said she didn’t feel as strongly as she should have. I tried to contact her a couple days after the breakup and she said it wasn’t a good idea to talk. I was in the process of doing no contact when I looked at her Facebook and she had a new boyfriend already on August 2nd so only 3 weeks later. I was so surprised cause she was single for a year before me and it took us 3 months to be official on Facebook. I then panicked and contacted her asking to be friends. She said it wasn’t a good idea and I kept trying to convince her it was. She said that we never were able to have meaningful conversations before and that was why she broke up with me. I said okay and wished her good luck. She told me she was happy with her new boyfriend and thanks. I don’t know what to do now. I feel like this new relationship might be a rebound but they seem so happy and they honestly seem like they’re good for each other. I really would just like to be able to talk to her again. I am talking to a therapist so maybe that will help. So far it’s just okay. And I’m trying to talk to other girls but it isn’t the same. I wanna know if anyone has any idea what I should do just so I can talk to her again without it being weird.

Thank you

[a.z]

Hey,

Continue the therapy everything will get better.

I know that gut wrenching pain when you know she’s with someone else but stay strong it’ll pass.

If she didn’t move on from you during the relationship and if your relationship was serious, its most likely a rebound relationship. Things tend to go so fast in rebounds but usually all that emotions will end real soon.

Continue NC, don’t stalk her on facebook( even unfriend her ), make positive changes in your life and try to become a happy confident person without her in your life. Just wait and remember the most important part of NC is about you not your ex.

You can contact her again after NC but please don’t talk to her for atleast 30 days.

Good luck

[steeld8]

Thanks for the advice! I probably should stop looking at her Facebook. I’ll wait 30 days and see how I feel. It sucks cause I really just miss being able to talk as a friend. I don’t need a relationship with her even though I’d like it

[steeld8]

So I caved and looked at her Instagram and she posted a pic of her and her new boyfriend. They look so happy. Is this common in rebounds? She never posted pics of us together when we were in a relationship. I feel like this may not be a rebound even though she started dating him so soon after breaking up with me. I also feel like i should send an elephant in room text soon but idk if that would help.

Thank you for any advice

[a.z]

Hey stop checking her on social media. It only makes things more difficult for you. There’s no guarantee that their relationship will be over soon but whatever she’s doing is pretty much common in rebound relationships.

Don’t obsess over her life. Focus on yours and no matter how hard it all is right now, everything will get better soon.

Send the elephant in the room text and start NC. Stay strong and confident trust me you’ll be fine.

[steeld8]

Thanks its tough just. I felt pretty good before i checked her social media. I’m afraid to text her cause i think ill just push her away even more.

[a.z]

just tell her that you’ve been thinking and you’ve accepted the breakup. Apologize if you did anything crazy and wish her all the best. Whenever you start NC and continue it, it’ll undo any damage that you may have caused.

[steeld8]

I might try that. I already wished her luck last week and said i was sorry if i said anything to make her feel bad when we were talking about the breakup. Thank you though for taking the time to give out advice. I appreciate it

[a.z]

If you already said that, I think you should just continue NC and please please don’t stalk her on social media. Don’t even look at her pics or don’t listen to the songs that reminds you of her. Don’t even get the smallest dosage of her. The most important part of NC is for you to become the best version of yourself and to prove that you’ll be fine without her in your life.

[steeld8]

Good point. I’m gonna do my best to avoid her. I’m also trying to date other people but that’s hard

[a.z]

Yeah, about the dating part, I’m going through the same phase. Its like everyone you go out with makes you miss your ex more and you keep comparing them to your ex and it sucks but look at it as just fun.it’ll boost your confidence and we should definitely do it before ending NC.

[steeld8]

Yeah exactly. Good luck with your situation. Who knows maybe we’ll find people better than our ex’s. I’m just having trouble finding people to date. I never really dated many people. It seems like no one I talk to really wants to talk to me.

[a.z]

yeah I’m sure everything will be fine in the end.

Don’t think about negative things. Of course other women are gonna wanna talk to you. If you can’t find yourself a date immediately, just go out and have fun with your friends. Do anything that makes you feel better.

[steeld8]

Yeah it’ll just take time i guess. If only i had a time machine

[a.z]

I know right? Thats what I kept telling myself 2,3 weeks ago but it got so much better. Time really does heal.

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