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    casgts
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    Hi
    it has now been 18 days since starting no contact. The last conversation my ex and i had was her telling me she regrets everything and for this is the last time she will be replying to me. i had not messaged back. i have seen on social media she already has moved on (possibly a rebound) as they are at a stage it took us months to get to, in a few weeks. Every week she sees a mutual friend of ours and continuously asks them if theyd spoke to me, this time, i had commented on a girl’s photo she was always quite jealous of, seeing “if she can move on, why cant i act like it?” This week, shed asked this mutual friend in a smart ass tone “have you spoken to old mate” the mutual friend always says yes weve spoken but never gives details on how im doing.
    Why would she be asking continuously given we had a big fight and told me not to contact her? regardless no contact rule or not?

    Thanks

    #112669
    gamecoder.nz
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    That’s a good sign. You have pulled away and she is not used to that so she is asking your friend to see what’s been happening with you.

    Keep no contact and she might contact you.

    #112700
    casgts
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    She hasn’t been liking any of my social media posts either, you don’t think no contact is pushing her further away?

    #112717
    gamecoder.nz
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    Is she a big social media user? My ex doesn’t like my posts but only because she doesn’t use it much herself.

    If it was pushing her away then she wouldn’t ask your friend about you.

    #112752
    casgts
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    A week later, she met with this mutual friend again (today)
    She asked “have you spoke to old mate?” and she replies “yes but we havent spoke about you at all” ..
    Then she asks “oh what nothing? wouldnt he tell you we arent talking anymore? like wouldnt he just tell you”
    the mutual friend replied “”yeah he would but you just havent come up at all in general.”
    After seeing me comment on other girls photos in the past week , one she was always quite jealous of, she asks the mutual friend also today ” i think hes talking to _____ anyway” and the mutual friend says “no? im sure hed tell me i dont think so, why do you say that” and she goes ” oh nah nah i just assume. so clearly shes seen the comments, and must be playing on her mind? we are 23 days into no contact. Every week now, shes asked about me and into more detail today. is this a good or bad thing? where she thinks im talking to someone else? and why would she be asking? i honestly thought after asking the mutual friend last week (post at start of this thread) she wouldnt ask again, but now has, why is this ? is it a good thing?

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