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So I’ve been talking to this girl for about 7 or 8 months now, we built a very strong bond with each other, our relationship was always smooth. We never fought we never argued or anything, we were just a really happy couple(although we were never official) but we basically talked to each other everyday, I checked up on her made sure she was good, we had sex often and we were basically in love. Just a few weeks ago(about 7 months into our relationship) I made her mad and she blocked me. Keep in mind i never cheated or anything serious like that but I did do something that made her upset enough to block me. At this point I wasnt blocked everywhere and I knew about the no contact rule so I after talking to her about it for a little bit trying to convince her not to leave me I stopped and just let her go. I didnt contact her for about a week, then I got her to talk to me on the phone. We talked about the situation that happened and she started crying and basically said she was done with me and didnt want to be with me anymore and blocked me on one more social media site, so now I was blocked on two sites but not all of them. So I went on no contact again for about two weeks. After these two weeks were up I contacted her again and we talked a little bit and I explained to her how I was gonna change and be better for her, she said “okay we’ll see” and I left it at that. A day after that we got on the phone, talked and basically got back together. So we were together again for a few days and everything was going great. We were saying “I love you again” and having sex, then I accidentally sent her a text which was meant for someone else saying “What did I do?” and I explained to her that this text wasnt meant for her. But she interperated it as I was probably seeing someone else and cheating on her when I wasnt. This made her mad and she cussed me out on the phone for a good hour, she said “I hate you”, blocked me and left. The next day i contacted her on whatsapp trying to explain and convince to her that I didnt mean to hurt her and how sorry I was(Yes I begged for her to stay a little bit, I knew this was stupid but i let my feelings take control of me). She then blocked me on whatsapp after threatening me. Then the next morning comes and I send her a text asking one more time If she would reconsider leaving me and basically trying to convince her to stay. She was still reluctant and very hostile towards me, cursing at me and stuff then blocked my number. I then texted her from another number later that day basically telling her I respect her desicion to end things and gave me final goodbyes, even though she was mad at me. After telling her goodbye she cussed at me again in a very hostile manner, but i didnt reply. I dont even know if she blocked that number because I didnt text or call again to find out but im currently blocked on every other social media I contacted her on. i dont have any more ways of contacting her.
Some bonus infortmation about our relationship:
We were a happy couple, we never fought until this situation happened and even then I was never hostile towards her, I was always calm and collected. Maybe i pleaded with her to stay a little bit but I never went to the extent of “Baby please stay with me no go!”. Even when she was hostile towards me, I talked back in a calm manner. We were extremely close, like best friends. This girl was bisexual but liked girls more and she said she doesnt even really like guys but to her I was special.So my final question is, will no contact still work in making her miss me and possibly even contact me even though there’s no possibility of me contacting her? Like I think the point of no contact is being able to contact someone but instead you dont. Does it have the same effect when you literally cant contact them? I know she can still lurk on my profiles to see what im up to but does that fact that I literally cant contact her make no contact invalid? And will she ever unblock me? Also, how long does it actually take for a dumper to start missing the dumpee?
If anyone can answer my questions they would be greatly appreciated. Thank u.
@JanchB You say you had a happy 7-8 months, so why didn’t you make it official by asking her to become your girlfriend? A Boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is one of love and commitment.
You say you didn’t cheat, but obviously you did something bad enough for her to be very angry with you and she blocked you. So what was it and did you apologize?
You wrote:”I accidentally sent her a text which was meant for someone else saying “What did I do?” and I explained to her that this text wasn’t meant for her.” Who was it meant for? Okay, so then she was upset with you again, but instead of giving her space to cool off, you hounded her and begged.
Yes, no contact can work even if you’re blocked, but it will take time (maybe weeks or months) for her to start to miss you. The reason being is that there was too much drama.
Don’t stalk her social media. Start reflecting on what you did and why. Make positive changes that would allow for a possible better relationship in the future.
Yes I did apologize. Several times. And what I did wasnt really anything bad, it was more her misunderstanding the situation and jumping to conclusions, which im not blaming her for. I understand why she was mad. And I wouldnt say i BEGGED. It was more like “Baby, you know I love you, please reconsider this”, more along those lines. I wasnt begging and crying for her to stay. At the end of the few days I was trying to get her to reconsider, I messaged her on a different social media(because she had blocked me on everything else) just to tell her I understand she doesnt wanna talk rn and I said my final goodbyes. It’s been almost 2 weeks since then and idek if she blocked me on the last social media i texted her on because I literally went into radio silence with her.
Hey. I’m in a very similar situation to you and I wanted to let you know I’m sorry for how things are. I personally believe that if she wanted to be with you, she will – if she comes to the conclusion that she does miss having you in her life, and she wants to be with you, I think she will reach out. As for no contact and blocking, I want to know that myself. The most I can tell you that your chances of being unblocked as as much as she wants it to be, I think.
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