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It’s only been 2 and a half days now…
The wound is still fresh from the break up and it freaking hard to forget about everything we’ve been through together…
She’s just using me right?Everytime we argue about it she keeps on telling me that “It’s Only Facebook, half of the people there don’t know you”. My reaction was %!^%#$&$*#… Almost all of the people in her facebook are her family, friends and office mates. She just don’t get it right?
I believe thats all her tricks to cover up well what she does, and this will make you more angry.
I know it from my ex bf, he used such nasty tricks as an execuse…eventhough I know those are nonsense only I still didnt take any action towards them during last times of our relationshipBecause they became real and more selfish after seeing our care and love for them…it was us that made them the way they are now, unfortunately
@Malinda Yes she is using me and other people who she has been hoping to move on and forget about me with. Don’t worry, I have told her that I think that’s what she is doing and that type of negative behaviour will not bring her what she is looking for from either myself or any other prospective new partner.
I am torn between giving up and entertaining the idea of a new fake friendship with her if I am honest. I was in the fake friendship zone for a while recently without realising it. She was messaging me having flirty banter, telling me that she wouldn’t let me walk out of her life again, that she would bombard me with messages until I answered her. She was also expecting me to support her decision to date somebody she described as having “no real connection with” but likes while she was saying that she had a “great connection” with me and saying that she would be gutted if I just remained a modern day pen pal (texter) offering her advice and support. She had pretty much hinted at a possible meet up between us next year when I was flirting with her and couldn’t give me a straight answer on the following question that I asked her “is that all that I am to you now then, just a friend, or is there still a chance that we can get back to where we were someday?”
I’m hoping so that for you…I think if they really have the love inside them somewhere for us then they will understand and see their selfishness
@malinda I maybe in time, they will realize is…
This make me remember the song “Realize” by Colbie Caillat..@sparky you are lucky bro…
There still a chance for you to get back together…
But she needs to change first…@sparky I think that will be making something good that the people around her telling her to forget about you..
Think well if she wants to use you for her good only about false friendship then it will not be any good for you if you feel you are not powerful enough to handle it while loving her..but if you think that it may lead you two get back together again as lovers then go for it. Otherwise let her understand your value really@shawns Yes I understand and accept that I am lucky in some ways. I just have my doubts over whether she can change. I don’t even really want her to change, I think she kniws deep down where she has been going wrong and I also think that she likes that I will tell her that and reaffirm things for her, rather than let her continue to act in a detrimental way for her own future happiness and that of her daughter. I thought that she respects me for putting that above me just getting my fun (sex/dating) while never really getting to know the real me?
I am so confused that I just question everything though.
@Sparky Respect should be given first to you bro…
Its the basic…
Though I understand that you don’t want her to change…
We guys have that mentality to reaffirm them on their mistakes..
Its in our nature…
I wish you all the best…Oh and @shawns
Ryan Rivers says in his Relationship Rewind book that we all have a chance.
Problem is that none of us know how big that chance is. Just the same as we didn’t when we were friends with our Ex prior to dating.
I think that my Ex must realise that it is going to be difficult for us to remain just friends. Too much chemistry, too much of a connection. It’s possible someday (as I have done it with a previous Ex GF), but not for some time and certainly not while her current confusing behaviour continues.
If it is just friendship that she wants/needs from me then new clear boundaries need to be defined and that takes time.
I agree. You should set rules if she only wants the two of you to be friends. You guys have everything. Chemistry and connections… All that’s left is time. She should understand you as well.
By the way Sparky, do you think I should go back with my EX as what she is right now?
He didnt contact me in anyway till now..The last time I have called him was on 18th, 7 days ago and it was going to be his birthday after 3 days, I said him happy birthday from now then he said there still 3 days for it but still thank you and I didnt call or messaged him on his b-day…he must be angry a little maybe and was expecting me to call him…maybe this time he finished me for real 🙁
I just cant stand this feeling, I dont eat proper cuz I cant…I just want it to go away from me forever and ever if there will be nothing between us in the end
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