Didn’t give her space and now she hates me

[Amerriman]

Me and my girlfriend broke up last year but got back together and this site helped me the first time and this time around I hope It can again. My ex And I broke up again a couple months ago and she hates me now. At first she said we could talk in a week or two but now she has me blocked on everything and hates me because I didn’t leavd her alone and she thinks I treated her horribly. This might be some things her friends are saying to her because they hate me and that isn’t helping. I haven’t contacted her for two days but I’m really struggling with this because we’ve only been with each other and we’re still in high school and I really hope to get back with her but I don’t know if it’s possible now. Any advice is appreciated.

[a.z]

Hey,

continue NC for 2-3 months. She might unblock you by the time it ends. I don’t know the details but don’t panic. Even if she hates you right now, its not that bad.she’s probably just angry. The worst thing is being indifferent.don’t focus on what she says/does. Continue NC ,focus on yourself and make positive changes in your life.

Good luck

[Amerriman]

I was invited to a party earlier and I didn’t know she was there but when I walked in I saw her and she was crying so I went to ask if she was ok and she saw me and cried more and ran away and I was made to leave and then her friend came and told me that she doesn’t have feelings for me anymore and that she has someone else but that I could come back in if I don’t talk to her and I didn’t but she saw me again and ran out again crying so I was forced to leave and a girl escorted me out saying that the other girl was lying about her having someone else and that my ex told her she still loves me but idk which to believe or what to do now because her best friend says she has someone else but the friend does hate me so idk if I can trust that or if I should listen to the other girl.

[a.z]

Don’t talk about mutual friends about these things it only makes you more confused. Continue NC. I know its tough but you can do this.

[Amerriman]

I will restart no contact again but I just found out she has kissed my friend four weeks ago and she did tell the girl that she still loves me but also said she won’t take me back ever again so I don’t know what to do

[a.z]

I’m sorry this happened to you and I know how much it hurts. So do you want her back eventhough she kissws your friend? If you do, what else can you do? She already knows that you Love her.If she feels the same, she will contact you.

NC is the best way to go. Restart it, focus on yourself and try to be the new version of yourself. Let her see what she’s losing. Try to be happy without her in your life and thats the first step if you ever want her back.

[Amerriman]

I’m just really confused on everything now because we were each other first and only everything and now I don’t know if she’s done more with other guys and she’s changed completely ever since we broke up and I do love her more than anything but she thinks I’m psycho and wants nothing to do with me and even after the way she’s treated me after we broke up I still want her back but I also don’t because of how she’s changed and I don’t know what to do

[a.z]

Whatever you’re feeling is normal.you’re confused and heart broken. You need some time. Remember the most important part of NC is about you not your ex.

[Amerriman]

So I found out her and my friend had been seeing each other and lied to me about It and when I found out I was really mad but my friend has agreed to back off and not talk to her anymore and I have not spoken to her for a day now because yesterday she asked to go through my phone because she wanted to see if I still had pictures of her and she saw I had been talking to a girl a lot and seemed a little annoyed with It and I asked if she really didn’t have any feelings for me and she said she couldn’t answer that like in a way that meant she still does but then I found out about my friend and everything went bad and she said he’s an upgrade over me and all this stuff so idk what to do because he won’t talk to her anymore so I guess I need to just be patient and hope she’ll come back to me

[a.z]

You’re prolonging the process. Just resrat NC and don’t ask anyone anything about her.

[Jimmy837]

Hope you don’t mind me saying that you sound quite young – under 25. If you keep breaking up then maybe you’re not compatible. You can still love each other and be incompatible. It’s not easy to realise and I’m only just getting there myself. I’m 31.

I would love to get back with my ex but right now I’m in NC and asking myself serious questions!

[Amerriman]

Yeah I’m only 16 and she was my first everything and I was her so it’s really hard to let go and we were actually really good together other then a couple things that didn’t go our way but anyway I have now gone 5 days with complete no contact and my friend that she likes has said he’s not been contacting her too because he won’t continue to talk to her knowing how much I still care after what happened but she’s been texting him a lot asking to talk and stuff like that and I don’t know if no contact is really working if he’s also doing that to her and she likes him so I feel hopeless

[Amerriman]

I’m currently on day 18 of no contact and she hasn’t tried to contact me or anything yet and I don’t know if I should contact her once 30 days is over or wait for her to contact me if she ever Does or take more time on no contact. Any advice is appreciated.

[Amerriman]

Well now it’s currently day 45 of no contact with her because the first time I broke It, It didn’t end up working out so much because she still didn’t want to talk to me. She hasn’t shown any hint of missing me or anything there has been zero contact between the two of us and I still miss her a lot and I don’t know what to do. I know I should wait at least 60 days this time but I don’t think that will even be enough and I just had surgery and am stuggling without her. Any advice will be extremely helpful to hold on.

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