Did I start NC good?

[xabr2]

So I’ve been with my girl for 2 years. We’ve seen each other like once a week cause she lived 30km away from me. She broke up with me 2 weeks ago. She said she doesn’t have feelings for me anymore and she was in the state of confuse does she love me or not for few months. So right after she went to collage that is on the other side of the country. Since that she’s going to clubs and meeting new people all across the city even though she didn’t like to party and didn’t like new people when she was with me. Right now she seems to be living time of her life and be completly other person. So after like a week after our breakup we messaged each other but I told her that it hurts me too much and if she doesn’t want to give us another shot then it would be better to break contanct. She responded that it will be better if we both go our separate ways. So I thanked her for everything and she did too. 5 minutes after that she asked me about my profile picture on facebook cause I uploaded some stupid one but I didn’t responded to that anymore and ignored that. After her question she didn’t message me anything more. Now it’s one week of no contact. Did I even start it good non replaying to her question and ignoring it? I’m afraid that she’ll get mad at me. And is it even good idea to start no contact considering she’s in collage on the other side of the country and she’ll comeback in december? Also she’s social now and going to clubs (she never liked clubs). She’s extremaly busy so I don’t think she even does have time to think about me. I don’t know what is good anymore, really want her back ;/

[patricia12]

She doesn’t sound like she wants to continue with you and long distance makes a relationship much more difficult to maintain! She is young and enjoying her college life and becoming more social and you can’t forbid that or change her.

Continue no contact! If she initiates a casual contact by messaging you, give a short polite reply, but don’t initiate any contact.

I’m sorry this happened to you, but if nothing changes when she comes back for holiday in December, move on and date local girls.

[xabr2]

I don’t think she’ll initiate by herself considering I didn’t replay to her question. She’ll probably think I don’t want to talk with her cause if I would like to then I would reply to her.

Yeah I’m trying to focus on myself and survive till December. We’ll see if she’ll feel anything to me after not seeing each other for 3 months. If nothing will change I’ll go to a therapy. She’d probably need one too but I tried to convince her even back in 2018 so… I’m just praying for some kind of miracle cause I love her so much. I wanted to propose to her on New Year’s Eve. I had everything ready for it and was just waiting for the day that was to be the best day of my life and suddenly I lost her. I still feel like it’s a nightmare and I’ll wake up from it in a second.

Thanks for your message, appreciate it.

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