Did I ruin my chances?

[kayla223]

My ex blocked me on almost everything last week and for the first two days I was bothering him constantly, trying to get him back. It’s Easter morning and not talking to him has been eating at me. I’m now on day four of no contact and tried to call his phone number out of curiosity if I was still blocked. To my surprise, I was not. The first ring didn’t even finish when I panicked and hung up. Did I ruin my chances of him reaching out to me?

[Seth]

My ex has blocked me on everything before. Then after not hearing from me for a couple months, she unblocked me on everything. She didn’t say anything, I just noticed one day I wasn’t blocked anymore. That was her trying to control the situation and stick with her decision to break up. Don’t read into it too much when you are blocked. Unless you were constantly messaging him and refusing to give him space, he possibly blocked you because he is struggling with his decision and is trying to remove all temptations. After awhile he might unblock you.

If you and him were together for a good length of time before the breakup and the relationship wasn’t toxic (abuse, drugs, drinking, cheating), then you absolutely did not ruin anything. You are only 4 days into no contact. The first few weeks to a month are going to be the hardest. But I promise you if you stay strong and stay no contact you are going to appear more attractive to your ex. He is expecting to you to chase him and that reassures him that you are always going to be on his hook and he doesn’t have to give you attention back if he doesn’t want to. But, when you go a good length of time without making any efforts to contact him, that is going to hit him eventually and he is going to realize that you are just fine without him and that you are confident and secure with yourself so you don’t need to chase him. He will panic and eventually reach out to you with hopes to getting back together, because nobody wants to be replaced.

Stay no contact for as long as it takes him to reach out to you. If you reach out to him first, you will set yourself back. But, don’t sit around and wait for him. Work on yourself, do things you enjoy and find your happiness. This is what makes you attractive to him and anyone else.

[patricia12]

Why did he break up with you?

No, you didn’t ruin the chance he would reach out, but you have to stop obsessing about him. And don’t try to contact him. If he wants to talk with you, he will be the one to reach out..

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