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January 26, 2015 at 1:40 pm #26598
@ghost so how do I make her realise I still want to be with her without her knowing if I am behaving as though my life without is so well and fine ?
but if I false friendship her wont she just use our conversations for the emotional and mental support that she lacks in the relationship and use that boost to help continue her relationship ?
So after I meet up with her how long after do I meet up with her again?
and do i reach out to her after we meet up or do I wait until she reaches out to me for me to then reward her?
Im guessing until she is mine I always make it seem as though i am full busy and actually fill my days up with activities that make me busy so it’ll convey to her that I am busy and getting on with my life?
@LAbound IKR :O this guy is a legend at reconciliation :O LA what does LC mean ? you mentioned it before ?January 26, 2015 at 1:57 pm #26602Dude just live your life as usual. But of course get rid of your insecurities, you are also full of them now. Get some confidence.
You will know when to act when she gets rid of her placeholder. Until then don’t worry about anything. You have been together for 2 years. That’s long enough to get intimate. Once you are that close with someone, there is actually no such thing as being friendzoned. You are either in or out. If you play your cards right as I laid it out, you are gonna swing the situation to your end in no time. Don’t get stuck in her comment saying you are her friend. That could have been said with or without the new guy. Just play it cool and don’t get emotional.
One step at a time. Don’t think too much ahead. It will distract you from the course. We are here, you can come for opinion again when some development occurs.
January 26, 2015 at 2:51 pm #26624@ghost yeah thats why I am going through NC again I wrote all the things I want to change about myself and am aspiring to change at least one thing every day.
placeholder ?
you’re right that comment has gotten to me regarding the friends thing so it is hard to look past that since she mentioned it a few times :/.
what do you mean when you said ‘That could have been said with or without the new guy.’
you’re right let me just focus on now 🙂
thanks so much.
January 27, 2015 at 7:48 am #26805Placeholder = new guy
She wants to feel secure as far as your relationship with her goes. Friendship is the way to go without anything attached. This way neither party gets hurt. She could have said it to you even if she didn’t have a boyfriend.
You really ought to read Relationship Rewind. There are bunch of real life examples there for a variety of situation. You will also gain experience and eliminate some of your insecurities regarding women.
January 27, 2015 at 8:08 am #26809@ghost secure as in knowing she still has me in her life?
I will read it now I started yesterday just got past half way in Step 2
January 27, 2015 at 8:18 am #26810Secure as in no worries about nothing. No responsibilities, no obligations.
January 27, 2015 at 8:31 am #26811@ghost but if we are in false friendship then won’t there still be some responsibilities like making it seem as though she’s really happy in her relationship or making sure she keeps us as friends and that it doesn’t escalate to anything more
January 27, 2015 at 9:57 am #26844Arjum I’m sorry to tell you this but you need to grow some balls! You must put in mind that friendship isn’t a option. Don’t be happy for her, she left you god dammit. By displaying that emotinonal crap your pushing her away.
My advice to you:
1. Don’t contact her in any circunstances for at least one month (I would recommend even more), even if she begs you.
2. Make yourself more attractive!
– More muscles, less body fat
– New clothes
– Build your confidence!
3. Meet other women
– the hotter they are the better, if your ex knows your seeing other women that’s even hotter than her it will blow her mind.Never ever say that you sill care or love her. She must feel that you don’t love her anymore. Don’t talk about emotions, real men don’t talk about emotions, at least in the attraction phase. Talking about emotions demonstrates weakness. Weak men are so unattractive!
Basically this is what your ex is trying to communicate you:
“I really need a confident strong man to take care of me, but everytime I reach to you , you display so many pathetic traits of a weak man. Now I’m sure I made the right decision leaving you! I’m glad I’m with this new guy”
“Maybe next week I’ll try to reach again just to see if you had grow some balls. I really hope you would just ignore me, it would mean that you’ve some self-control which is very attractive in a real man. Maybe then my attraction for you will grow.”
Don’t get offend by this but you need to awake pal. I’ve been seen another women and talk with many guys who has success with women and believe me! Nice guys finish last!
January 27, 2015 at 11:16 am #26881@napoleon loooool no offense taken in fact I would’ve preferred a more harsh advice since it was some quality advice.
I know I need to grow balls
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