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I will take your advice on writing things down. Maybe that will help. It’s two weeks ago tomorrow since he blew up and called it off. I haven’t been coping well, but I am trying. Do you really think he’s easing me back into his life due to the resent incidents? What I find strange is the times I’ve talked to him on the phone he talks about things we normally talk about like nothing has happened and then again he feels distant. I have been polite and nice when I have talked to him, and I have not said a word about feelings or our relationship at all.
You won’t be as he has been back and forth and playing with your head and heart.
He’s keeping you dangling on a piece of string and that is not fair on you at all.
Like I said before he is very confused and you not being in touch might give him some clarity.
He definitely seems confused. He’s not himself after he started struggling with the depression. He does things sometimes just out of the blue because he feels so pressured in his mind, and regrets it afterwards. I don’t know, I know he is getting help from a therapist at least. The thought of him being with someone else and stuff like that is devastating. But it seemed to me that him showing up here and the texts he sent me when he saw me meant something, that it might be a sign? I really do want him back, but at the same time I want him to work for it. We have been through so much together, and don’t want to give up yet, but at the same time, what if it’s to late? Can this be fixable?
Everything can be fixed, it’s space and time you need now.
If he’s getting the help this will be good for him to open up.
Just concentrate on you and don’t worry about what he is doing
I know I shouldn’t worry about what he’s doing, but it’s easier said than done. Those awful thoughts keeps crawling into my mind, especially at night. It feels like someone is taking over my mind some times. Am I over thinking the fact that he showed up here without calling and the text from him?
It’s a lot easier said than done but you will drive yourself crazy otherwise.
You know him better than anyone but him texting and showing up are not signs of someone who doesn’t care or love you
Do you think he is trying to see if he can ease me back into he’s life? I am probably over thinking this. I just want it to be some meaning in it. Why would he do this otherwise? And the texts he sent had a flirting undertone, he was very curious about where I had been and what I was up to. It wasn’t the most interesting text conversation, but it was something. And the vague answer on Sunday when I asked if he stopped by to get his t-shirt. He answered with: something like that. I am afraid to get my hopes up, just to end up crushed. I just really want this to work out. Two days before he blew up he said that he couldn’t imagine his life without me, that was so glad he had me and loved me. And then all of a sudden he just blew up.
To me he’s keeping you around as he is terribly confused and not sure what he wants!
There is hope there but you have to do NC to find out exactly what it is he wants
So I should just continue the no contact and hope that he will figure it out? He is dealing with a heavy depression, I know people struggling with stuff like that pushes people away. He tends to do that when he is struggling.
He knows we can´t just be friends, we have talked about that before. So when he comes to my house and text me, there´s got to be some motive behind it? I don´t know, it just feels hopeless, i don´t want to lose hope.
What if he just moves on and forgets about me, or that he has already moved on? That I won´t hear from him again…
Do you think the text he sent me that friday that he was sad to, but wishes me the best bla bla bla, was his way of ending things for good with me? I am so afraid that my respond was a mistake. I don´t know. I am freaking out over here. Over analyzing.
No because he wouldn’t have shown up or text again, he needs space and so do you, STOP over analysing it does not achieve anything.
He will return but in time
Okay, I will try to calm down. I appreciate your advice and calming me down, I tend to freak out sometimes – especially at night. I have been out running for two hours today, maybe that will help me get some sleep.
I wish I knew what he was thinking. What do I do if he´s already meet someone else? This is the most scary thought ever. I don´t know why, probably that he will lose his feelings for me and find this person a better woman than me, and never look back. I feel a bit obsessed on what he´s doing, who he´s with and so on at the moment. Keep wondering if he has posted anything on his facebook page – since we are not friends there I can´t see everything. He is not the kind of person who post that much on facebook anyway, it could go months between posting something.
I must sound like a crazy person, but I love him so much.
It’s ok we have all freaked out but I have learned that it does not achieve anything, the way you are feeling will pass, always keep putting one foot in front of the other.
He will not move on that quick, he’s still texting and showing up at yours, he’s questioning what uiu are doing. You will never know what he is thinking but you have to stop putting yourself down, you had a relationship and went through a serious illness with him he cannot forget all of that.
You have to take care of yourself first not because you will get ill if you keep going the way you are.
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