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  • #69563
    John Crane
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    Oh sorry for posting again lol, in case out are gone after the two weeks how should I reestablish contact? It seems weird to be like “this made me think of you” so? What should I say?

    #69565
    patricia12
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    Don’t think about how to reestablish contact now. You will have plenty of time to think about it. The main thing is to never get back into your needy patterns.

    #69566
    John Crane
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    Okay lol πŸ™‚

    #69569
    John Crane
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    She responded to the text I sent with “Mmkay”
    (I’m talking about the extra I told you about before, the one saying I can’t talk.)

    Lol so annoying mmkay whatever, at least she replied πŸ™‚

    #69571
    John Crane
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    Why would she write mmkay tho… like the fck?

    #69573
    John Crane
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    It’s so hard to not think of her moving on or forgetting about me ugh..

    #69589
    patricia12
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    She won’t forget you! Like I said before, if she has it in her mind to move on, there’s nothing you can do or say to change her mind, so please stop thinking about it. The reply was her way of agreeing with no contact.. nothing more or less. So now the thing for you to do is to keep yourself busy and stop obsessing.

    #69598
    John Crane
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    Ugh… memories are flooding back from last halloween. We spent it together and had so much fun, everything is reminding me of her…

    #69599
    John Crane
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    Wtf… whenever I start typing a message I get a notification that you replied lol

    #69619
    John Crane
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    Okay so… I’m staying home from college today because I’m kinda drunk & tired lol

    I thought about my ex-girlfriend a lot yesterday, I was told by my cousin to “move on” lol, she’s right… I’m not currently ready to move on.

    If I lose all hope and move on it seems like it’s really over… I mean it’s over now but… anyways you guys know what I mean. One of her best friends is a photographer and he posted one of his pictures of her on instagram, this made me sad. He has a gf and is happy with her but I’m still jealous… he’s got nothing on me looks wise (her words not mine) he just has the ability to make her laugh because they have the same sense of humor. I can make my ex laugh it’s just… not as often & hard you know? Whatever I’ve been learning not to take these things personally and it’s been helping.

    For the most part I had fun yesterday, besides the couple of “dips” when I thought of my ex it was good. I spent Halloween watching scary movies and going for walks with my BEAUTIFUL cousin, I call her my cousin but we are just good family friends (I know what you are thinking… no I don’t like her like that, we are like family!) Anyways we went to Tim’s to get hotchocolate late at night, she’s wearing a frog costume, she threw a cute face on aND posed for a picture, I put it on instagram and titled it “Hoppy Halloween” genius! That may get the ex kinda wondering what im doing… maybe lol

    Anyways after getting drunk at around 3:00am I was told I should delete apps like Instagram, Facebook and other things because I can’t control myself I will stalk my ex. I deleted them, I will not re-download them until the NCP is over, I may snap a photo and post it then re-delete the app but that’s it πŸ™‚

    I don’t know what I’m asking for advice on at this point… I’m looking for more “support” am I making a wise decision? After knowing all this about my relationship do I have a good chance? I don’t know… tell me the truth please lol

    Thanks guys, you are very helpful and help me get through the day!

    *thinks to self* “it’s only been 3.5 weeks…”

    #69630
    hopefullywaiting
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    i do think it’s good to stay off of social media, especially if you frequent your ex’s account.

    stay busy and keep hanging out with your friends. you’ve got this!

    #69631
    John Crane
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    Thanks πŸ™‚

    #69639
    patricia12
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    @JohnCrane, Hey Grayson:) You’re doing fine so far and keep up the no contact even though it’s difficult. You have to stick to your word about it! I think you have a great chance only IF you change your needy behavior. Staying off social media will keep you from being even more sad and wondering what things mean.

    #69640
    John Crane
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    Yea I have completely agreed to stay off now. After I deleted it I went off to look at a message my friend sent me, I then saw a picture she posted… she was in a cute black dress, it was like an “old time dress” I think anyways. The caption was “tell me ’bout:it stud”. I looked into the comments and someone commented “SANDY ?” then another person commented “Maddie + Sandy = Mandy! I love it!❀❀”

    I don’t know if she’s into someone named sandy or…

    She’s playing a character named sandy, that’s why she’s dressed like that, and wrote a weird caption and someone said it = Mandy.

    I’m so confused and I’m freaking out! I’m deleting instagram… help me plz…

    #69641
    John Crane
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    She is in a drama class and she could be doing a short play playing a character named sandy… because she was dressed different and in a weird pose in the picture… like she had one shoulder showing and she was making a face like “I wanna fuck you” im in class right now and I’m so fucking worried lol my mind is going crazy over basically nothing…

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