Confused and scared…

[John Crane]

I’m so sorry… this is what I’m afraid of in my relationship. I do hope he realises his mistake and texts you. He battles with depression, he’s probably scared and confused. It’s not uncommon to snap like this, I do however recommend you look for someone else. I’m sorry to say that because if I heard that I would lirterally want to die, just remember that you deserve love and to be happy!

Hell with how nice and supportive you are I’d date you 🙂

Anyways, I’m so scared after sending the text, I keep looking to see if she’s read it… she hasent yet lol. I think she’s awake because she liked a couple photos earlier of random people. Her friend also liked them so she may be chillin with her.

Btw dont think I’m like stalking her and her friends lol, I posted a picture earlier and was looking at my notifications, I saw that her and her friend liked the photos while I was looking at people who liked my photos 🙂

Anyways any more advice for me? I recommend you clean, meditate, do laundry, etc… get your mind off it.

[John Crane]

Sounds like he just put up his defenses… don’t bring up the relationship if he contacts you Please!

You still have a chance… kinda.

[Anni]

Thank you for your advice! I think he wasn’t ready to talk to me himself and is confused. He hasn’t overcome the negative feelings of the depressive period that he is relating with me. Of course I did things wrong but the most hard thing in our relationship was the communication during his depression for which he think I was the reason when it was his mind 🙁 I just hope he will understand one day.

It’s hard to see that we could have a wonderful relationship if we both take time now to work on ourselves and that he doesn’t see that. I don’t want to move on and I also don realize that yet. I think I cannot give up like this now 🙁

I was thinking of just continuing NC, send a present for his bday in December and see if he answers or wants contact. He actually also said two weeks ago he would come to my presentation of my final project/graduation in January but he needs to see how he feels until then. I don’t know if he will…

It’s normal to look if she has answered, don’t worry. We all would be super excited! Any news on the answer?

Also try to keep calm and distract yourself. Try not to make the same mistakes like I did 🙁 Because I was definitely not ready for a conversation with him. Do you have school today?

[John Crane]

Yup at 6:00pm so not till way later.

I’m just nervous about what she’s going to say lol.

I don’t really know what else to write at this point I’m just nervous, I hate how I’m the one reaching out… it makes me feel like she doesn’t care lol. Do you think she cares? If so why isn’t she reaching out…

[Anni]

Ah damn, that’s not good :/ And it’s very early in the morning at the moment is it?

I think she cares. I also think my ex cares otherwise he wouldnt have written me.
They are just confused with their own feelings atm. They broke up but they still care. But they don’t want to be confronted with you or me right now because we confuse their feelings. On one hand there are all the reasons for why they broke up and then on the others feelings of love and care come up again too. So they are confused but they don’t want to admit they are. They want to be “strong” and stand by their words of the break up. It’s usually easier than admitting you still love the person and that you actually want them back too. It’s a mix of feelings. So it’s normal that she doesn’t write right away, she needs to think of what to answer. Wait it out. If she doesn’t write, she is not ready yet and you can try again on the weekend, this time with a direct question.

[Anni]

Any update so far?

[John Crane]

Nope lol, she hasent seen it yet… I posted a picture on snapchat 2h ago that she saw. I sent the text like 3h ago lol

So she either hasent clicked on it because she doesn’t know what to say or doesn’t want to be in a conversation. Or she doesn’t know she got it.

[Anni]

I think she saw it and is confused what to write and when to write 🙂 Don’t worry, it will be fine

[John Crane]

So freaking scared.

[Anni]

I know! Don’t worry and try to watch something maybe 🙂

Do you have twitter? I started using twitter again a few weeks ago but I think it’s not so popular here so almost none of my friends use it

[John Crane]

Nope I don’t use it, I use instagram.

[Anni]

aaah okay, yeah we all use instagram more than twitter too I think

[John Crane]

Why hasent she answered or seen it guhhhhh….

[Anni]

Give her time. She will write once she is ready.

[John Crane]

She replied, she said how much she loves me and wants me back.

No I’m kidding… I wish, anyways after I wrote the message she waited 5 hours to look and reply to it.

She wrote: “I really like the haircut but I’m really overwhelmed right now so I can’t talk.”

I went to go help my mom and replied about 3min later with: “No problem, I hope everything’s okay lol. I can’t really give a proper opinion cuz I’ve only seen one picture but I think it suits you well.”

Then that was it, she looked at the message in like 10 seconds then… done.

So… did I handle the situation well? I didn’t ask her what her problems were because I didn’t want to get personal, I just basically said I hope everything works out. I’m worried because she’s overwhelmed but ehh.. whatever. You think her response was okay?

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