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  • #70136
    John Crane
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    Lol thanks, I’ll still keep you up to date after I text her. If by some miracle we end up back together I’ll still be talking to you in here, giving advice, saying how I feel etc…

    I like you so I want your relationship to work out as much as I want mine to. πŸ™‚

    #70139
    Anni
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    awww that’s nice to hear πŸ™‚ I’m looking forward to hearing what you will tell us from Tuesday on!

    #70140
    John Crane
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    I’m not, I’m scared ?

    #70142
    John Crane
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    Ugh… I can’t get over that picture her fking friend posted! She looks so beautiful, I hate him. She always has this seductive “I wanna fck you” face on… They are friends and he’s in a happy relationship with another girl, he takes pictures of like 5 other people but… still, it sucks!

    This may be personal lol but she’s likes to be submissive, we never really did anything crazy in bed mostly just the me on top going slowly because… well it hurt her and we are shy. What I’m saying is if we get back together and she wants to do the do… I won’t be shy. ??

    #70143
    John Crane
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    Songs I like when I’m sad.
    Over the Rainbow
    Mama said
    Love on me
    No money

    There are more but… takes long to link stuff lol!

    #70144
    Anni
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    Didn’t know Lukas Graham before, catchy song! I listen to a lot more calm songs when I’m sad πŸ˜€ for example like (I’m not sure if we are allowed to link stuff so I won’t do it):

    A Change of Heart – The 1975 (or many other song of their new album because he was processing a break up on that album)
    Ivy – Frank Ocean
    33 “GOD” – Bon Iver

    I know that feeling. But hey he is in a relationship and is happy with that girl. And maybe that look she put on was because she was thinking of you? Who knows!
    And yeah I bet you are scared but don’t be! You’ll be fine and you can finally show her the improved you πŸ™‚

    #70164
    Anni
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    Today is a bad day again… I had a weird feeling throughout the whole day yesterday and started to panic a few times. All my emotions hit me really bad and gave me a lot of anxiety. And since I woke up this morning I have the feeling my ex slept with another girl last night. Of course it’s something I don’t really think is true and I hate that the feeling overcomes me and makes me look like the needy person I don’t want to be anymore, it is like poison and I feel like I’m crazy having thoughts like this πŸ™

    Do you have those thoughts sometimes too when you feel something bad has happened but you cannot describe it?

    #70165
    Anni
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    Ooooh he contacted me…what shall I do?

    “hey (my name), you asked me to check in in like two weeks or so
    im up at (friends name) recording
    i dont know how i feel to be honest
    im very sad some days
    but im working a lot on myself
    and I think im slowly getting better
    your mandala is very nice
    i should start doing them more
    that was a part of art therapy
    i hope your ok anyway
    and im sorry for being the person I was in general”

    Shall I just ignore that and continue NC? I’m super confused now

    #70172
    John Crane
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    Sorry I’m not posting, I stayed up all night so I’m sleeping lol.

    Just don’t get anxious and text him something you will regret. Remember if he wants to move on and is seeing another person he’ll do it wheather or not you contact him.

    Sorry I’m not of more help, I am very tired and I feel sick. Really try to lighten up, I don’t want you to feel bad πŸ™‚

    #70173
    Anni
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    Yeah that’s true. Thanks for your answer anyway. I’ve been sick the past few days and feel like I’m way more emotional than usual which is not good for my own process haha but oh well.

    I decided to continue NC and ignore his message for now since he hasn’t asked direct questions that I need to answer right away. I already see things more positive than this morning.

    Thank you again and I hope you’ll get better soon!

    #70179
    John Crane
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    Lol thanks! I currently feel speed down tho πŸ™ The closer I get to the contact date the more afraid I am.

    #70181
    Anni
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    Don’t be afraid! You made great progress and I’m sure your ex will notice. Distract yourself for two more days (easy, look at how many days of distracting yourself you have behind you!) and gain confident in that you will write her. I hope everything will be fine πŸ™‚

    What do you think to the things my ex wrote me btw? Do you think it’s a good sign? I’m continuing NC for sure, but I’m a bit confused πŸ˜€

    #70182
    John Crane
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    Could you tell me again what he wrote? Just to be clear.

    #70183
    Anni
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    he wrote: β€œhey anni, you asked me to check in in like two weeks or so
    im up at (friends name) recording
    i dont know how i feel to be honest
    im very sad some days
    but im working a lot on myself
    and I think im slowly getting better
    your mandala is very nice
    i should start doing them more
    that was a part of art therapy
    i hope your ok anyway
    and im sorry for being the person I was in general”

    #70184
    John Crane
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    Oooo I don’t know that’s tough… honestly I have no idea. If it was Maddie I would wait until Wednesday to text her back. Actually mayb I would just not text, he sounds sorry but I don’t know.

    If you decide to text him done be rude, don’t blame him or yourself, don’t be needy and don’t talk about the relationship unless he brings it up. Even then keep it short and change the subject discretely.

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