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I should wait till Tuesday right?
Take this time to really focus on myself, stay off social media get work done and maybe go out with a friend?
Or should I text her tomorrow on the weekend when we are probably not very busy? Ugh… I already know the answer lol.
Wait…
okay I’m feeling pretty down 🙁 so when I was over in Ireland two weeks ago to “sort things out” and speak about the break up in person we went to a pub one afternoon to play some cards. A girl entered the pub at some point and she knew my ex and was happy to see him and he just introduced me as “That’s Anni” and not as his gf anymore. She seemed to like him. When I asked him who she was he told me “I told you about her. I’m hanging out with her at lunch breaks or after uni, I know her from the bus” but he didn’t and when I told him so, he got angry so I just shut up. But I know he didn’t tell me about that girl… He started a new college class in October and hasn’t really told me about any new friends he made, I always had to ask a lot to get to know more information about people he meets. It was weird because I was happy for him to make new friends. He probably saw it as me being jealous (which I wasn’t, but him hiding everything from me made me more insecure and gave me a weird feeling).
So a few days ago I saw that that girl and him are FB friends now and since then she is liking everything he posts and I bet they are writing, too. I’m so sad right now and I’m really so close to write him something bad, I really need to hold back. I could cry 🙁
haha yeah wait!! 😀 you’re strong enough to keep on going those couple of days more.
Don’t write him back… it’s okay calm down, my ex has lots of friends in her course. Like I said before it’s a tight nit community, they text and talk often, also it’s a drama course and people who like drama are usually good looking (I like drama 😉 ) Anyways that makes me worry sometimes that she found someone new, she literally has all of them on Facebook and instagram and probably snapchat, her snap score (it goes up when you send or receive a snap) well her score goes up everyday by like 30 – 40 points… that means she’s sending and receiving lots of snaps, it a bothers me but I don’t let it get the best of me. It’s normal for this to happen, and if they do start seeing each other it may just be a rebound, just keep calm and don’t write him please.
I’m a bit calmer now but the thought of him being with someone else makes me really really sick 🙁 because he broke up with me to get the stuff that’s going on with him (depression etc) right again and he wanted to do that alone which I also agreed on because I cannot always help him. So why a rebound? It just makes no sense 🙁 I was also thinking of just going out there, use tinder and date again or whatever, I just don’t know if it’s a good idea or not.
You could try it 🙂
I’m glad you have calmed down, I also get a sick feeling when I think of Maddie dating another person… especially when I think of her doing the… you know. Since I was her first and she was mine I hate the thought of her doing it with someone else.
yeah it’s really really hard and a bad feeling :/ We shouldn’t have those thoughts, they just pull us down and don’t do anything good for us.
Ugh… I was doing fine and all of a sudden I thought of her. It’s not memories I haven’t thought of but this time it’s like I got kicked in the stomach.
I feel like I’m in between forgetting and remembering, I just feel numb. Everything is numb besides the pain in my stomach.
I woke up and I have that exact feeling right now too.. And I don’t want to have it because I AM not dependent on him. I am not that needy and desperate person anymore, I’m strong and independent. But in moments like this it just hits me. And I don’t know what to do against the feeling of emptiness and loss inside me. Distracting won’t help 🙁
Any update on the situation? I’m almost 18 and my ex and I were on and off for over three years so I understand how you feel about having a long term relationship when you’re young lol!
I need your opinion on something. So I started writing down my feelings when I feel down or very angry and it really helps to overcome the need to write all those things to my ex which would be very bad obviously and I don’t want to break NC. But I’m kinda thinking that someday once I have dealt with everything on my own and improved myself during NC I’d like to tell those feelings in a very neutral and filtered version to my ex. Do you think that’s a bad idea because I ruin my chance of a new start or because it would be selfish because my ex might have improved until then, too and that would only bring up negative feelings from the past? Or maybe I should wait until I have normal contact with him again and we are able to talk about more serious things again? I’m so confused.
I’m doing the same thing 🙂
It is however a bad idea to bring up problems you had, I find it kinda risky to even bring up good memories because even tho they are good… that relationship didn’t work, because of this it is both of your jobs (if you get back together) to make new memories that you both cherish.
If you get back together and date for awhile you could I suppose tell him you wrote a journal about your feelings throuout the breakup. Then you could both look at the extremely filtered version of your feelings lol, you could statell things that he did that hurt you, don’t state many tho. Then you could talk about lots of good things, how you remembered certain memories while broken up which made you feel better.
I have 3 days! I’m so nervous, so many things can go wrong and so many things can go right. I have a good strategy, my feelings are pure, I love her, at this point it’s all up to her feelings…
Yes that is true, I find it very risky. I’m already so scared of contacting him again even that of course I cannot even describe how I feel about bringing up my feelings deep down. I might consider telling him a very filtered version of it if he would be ready for a new start again because I for my part need to talk about those things before we would start seeing each other again because I need to know he has changed, he knows that he did things wrong too and that he won’t hurt me like that again.
But of course I am so far away from those things. *sigh* I wish it would be 3 days for me too.
I’m happy for you! Do you feel ready for it? 🙂 I hope so much that everything between you two will work out because you deserve it!
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